it seems to me that people dont value marriage very much these days,,,?

Question

why is it so easy to cheat, or lie, or be disrespect full, why do people treat strangers better than the one they "love" between reading questions on 'answeres' and my own life,,, relationships are battlegrounds instead of love nests,,, what is the problem people???

Answer 1

People are selfish....they are lazy and it takes work to make a relationship. It is easy to meet someone and have that feeling lay down have sex and move on when the feeling subsides. You will never have anything if you are following your genitals.

Answer 2

Many years ago, divorce was not as common as it is today, People made the conscious commitment to stay with each other and work together towards a successful marriage. Each person would make sacrifices to make sure that the marriage worked. It was not about "ME", it was about "US" and "OUR FAMILY". People today are much too selfish, and when a marriage doesn't go the way they'd like it to, it's way too easy to just get divorced and part ways. I also think that people today don't give enough thought to the decision to get married in the first place. It seems that many enter into it with blinders on, and then when it all goes bad, they wonder why, and then are willing to launch an all out war with each other, because they just can't admit that they made a bad decision to begin with. They have to blame somebody, and they will never accept the responsibility that they were half of that bad decision.

Answer 3

Oh I completely agree with you, and would love for us to be friends out of this, cause I can relate.....I have been married for 13 years, got 3 kids, was a stay at home dad for almost 2 years....and still, 3 times a charm....in other words, my wife cheated on me for the third time which is gonna lead us to divorce. Right now, she's seeing a married man and she is open with me about it cause she knows we are gonna split. But what sucks is why dont men an women appreciate marriage, and think of it as a good thing....not a burden? Maybe it's cause life changes.....but thats no excuse.....I just hope that I will find someone who will appreciate the closeness, and the bond we could share.

Answer 4

I wish that I knew. Not everyone is that way though. I suspect that many here ask questions that they know will result in a firestorm. How many people really say that it is OK to have an affair? Not many. How many "cheat"? Too many.

I think to often people don't really value what they have. If you watch the movies, TV, radio, and music then everyone is a "ho", or a criminal, or a cheater. It simply is not true. Most are not, but there is no advertising money to be had from selling "normal, boring" life stories.

Answer 5

You are absolutely right. I think it is something that starts early in a persons life. First, children aren't made to be respectful to anyone in a lot of homes now. Second, they are told they are "special" which therefore leads to someone believing they are "better" than everyone else. They are told they can "do" anything they want to when they grow up and I believe this is misunderstood as being able to treat people any way they want to and act any way they choose instead of what it was meant to mean which is you can grow up and accomplish anything you set your mind to. And a lot of children are handed everything without having to work for it which leads them to believe they should have whatever they want when they want it. If a child can pitch a fit and eventually get what they want or they can talk to and treat people any way they want...how can we expect them to act any different when they grow up? The only difference is that as adults it's more expensive things they want and relationships with their spouse that suffers.

Answer 6

I think you might be forming your opinions based on what you've been exposed to about marriage through television, radio, books, magazines or online. Unfortunately only negative sensationalism sells. Who wants to read, see or hear about a happy well adjusted marriage? It would be boring and people would lose interest right away. Don't be discouraged there are a lot of good strong marriages out there. They are centered on mutual respect, strong communication, spirituality and good old fashion love that has grown over the years. You won't hear about them though, these couples are not bankable and are just too humdrum Have faith, they exist!

Answer 7

It's not just marriage, it's life in general. People put no value on people but rather THINGS. People dont even talk to one another face to face any more. The cell phone and computer have taken the place of human communication. We may as well be robots.
Home is just a building where people come to rest, eat, and change their clothes. Communication and time spent together is unheard of.

Answer 8

The problem is the the lack of morals in the world. Family is not valued as much as self is. People are only worried about satisfying themselves, no one else matters. If more people would regard marriage for what it really is (a contract between God, you, and your spouse), there would be less infidelity, lies, and disrespect for one another.

Answer 9

Our society has made it way to easy to get in and out of marriage. See how many true happy marriages you see on television--they're becoming less and less all the time even on the sitcoms. It seems like too many people just want to make themselves happy as easily as possible and that's not good in any type of relationship. Love and marriage or any longterm relationship isn't easy--it takes work and commitment; it's a matter of give and take and treating the person you've chosen to be with the way you want them to treat you. I see couples everyday in my line of work who look at each other like they just fell in love yesterday even after 50+ years of marriage. They hold hands, they talk to each other, more importantly they listen to each other. They not only treat their partners like they want to be treated but many of them treat each other better than they expect to be treated in return. All roads are bumpy but it takes work to get through the potholes.

Answer 10

The problem is the government's paternalistic stance towards women. They give women an incentive to be single in that they will take a large percentage of the soon to be ex-husband's income and give it to the woman w/o any accountability.