how should i handle this one??
2007-05-20 06:50:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i found out bcuz he was signing on to his email and i was sitting next to him and saw it in his e mail,,, he said he was mad at me cuz i told him to stop asking sexual questions on answers, and to stop answering sexual questions from girls on answers,,, so instead of stopping, he took it a step further and went on personals
2007-05-20 06:56:44 · update #1
Mucho take it easy, talk on him.
2007-05-20 11:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by db14 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like major communication problems here.
Have you considered:
1. Telling your husband, you would like for him to ask you questions on sex and discuss feelings, beliefs and etc.
That you will always keep the discussions private and secret.
2. Your husband may that trust being open with you about questions he has.(fear you will find the subject repulsive, fear you will tell family or friends, fear you may consider him a freak)
3. Purchasing a few books on sexual relationships (Sue Johnson's website has many informative books)
4. Telling him, you are hurt seeking advice from other people on line especially women. You would like to learn more also.
You may find the following information of some value.
Years of research have shown that most long-term marriages have some very common factors and that the failure of any two or more of this factors in high probability will cause an end to the marriage. (Long term –is defined as a marriage of more than 20 years)
1. Both parties married at age 25 or older.
2. Religious compatible (example: Jews + Hindu just do not work)
3. Common goals (someone likes a simple life, not chasing material wealth or career and some that is very goal minded for gaining as much material wealth as possible, together they do not make a lasting marriage. Another example, a conflict over having children).
4. Social economical compatible (poor + rich only works in the movies)
5. Financial responsible (debt is the number one cause of divorce)
6. Open Communications (agree that it is ok not to agree, tell each other your most hidden secrets, keeping the secrets from everyone, no name calling, and etc)
7. Both parties are very much alike (opposite may attract, but they do not make for a lasting marriage)
8. Sexual compatible (variety in sexual act + partner that finds some acts repulsive, does not make a lasting marriage
2007-05-20 07:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've gotten mad......
I've gotten drunk..........
In fact right this second I am mad and will probably get drunk before the end of the day!
But one thing I've noticed is that it's almost impossible to type when you're drunk. How you're husband was able to open a yahoo personals account while drunk is a trick I'd like to hear more about.
2007-05-20 06:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same thing happen with my boyfriend. I figured if he wanted to meet someone that badly, I'd help him out. I went into his new profile and changed the settings from "men seeking women" to "men seeking men". I also rewrote his profile and did a rather good job. Almost two years later, he still gets email from gentlemen who have read his profile and want to meet him. His disgust at getting sexually propositioned by men has kind of turned him off to the whole online cheating thing.
2007-05-20 07:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he get mad first and then drunk or did he get drunk first then mad. Could I suggest that you use the spell check and use punctuation. The rest of us adults can not understand you. Good luck when you graduate high school!
2007-05-20 07:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by Mark 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for a "come to Jesus" meeting with him. That was totally immature and inappropriate for him to do. If you two have issues between you, then you need to be communicating honestly about them and actively working to solve the problems. This sort of passive-aggressive behavior is not going to help either one of you.
2007-05-20 06:53:42 · answer #6 · answered by UofMWolverines03 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you find out about this? I would say have a serious talk with him, let him know that its really bothering you and why would he need a yahoo personals account when hes married.
2007-05-20 06:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by oxxrachaelxox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband played you out, chica!
That's what he wanted to do and did it, but in a controlling manner where he would not face all responsible or remorse for his doing. By, getting drunk is a sure way to say you made him do it! got it, now put his face on a milk cartoon...LOL
2007-05-20 06:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by NEMESIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and have a good long conversation with him. Find out where is heart really is. If he admits he made a mistake and truly loves you - then have him cancel his account. If not, then move out!!!
2007-05-20 06:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's obviously something missing in your marriage that he feels the need to get an account. I'd approach it from that angle and ask him what's wrong and don't accept the "I was drunk" line.
Good Luck
2007-05-20 06:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by Dan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you talk as if he went out and got laid geez most people on the computer as far as women go are 5 5 11o pounds blue eyes blonde hr and beautiful. the guys all have ten inch cocks ; its amazing how all the fat chicks are out with there dates and all the beauties are at home so worry about WHAT?
2007-05-20 07:15:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋