a month ago. My brother in law is 44 and lives at home with his parents, never been married or had kids. He knew I was getting surgery this past week and sent me a nasty email the day of my surgery. Letter started out nicely but ended very nasty to the point it made me cry hysterically. (judging me, critizcizing me, regarding my deceased mom, my kids etc)
The argument he had with my husband had nothing to do with me. I wrote him back the next day and basically told him off.
I was so hurt that this was done to me several hours after my operation. Any other advice?
2007-05-20 06:35:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My advice to you is to stay away from your brother-in-law...He sound's like a complete LOSER..There is a reason that he is 44yrs old and still living with mommy..
2007-05-20 06:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control what others do, but you can control how you react to it.
There are some people with absolutley no sense of decency...and those are the type you don't need in your life. If necessary, block his e-mail so you don't have to ever get anything like that from him again.
You also need to be the bigger person, it is obvious the guy has serious emotional problems inf he is 44 and hasn't left mom's house...pity the guy...and get on with your day...
2007-05-20 13:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you should have a talk with your husband about him. If your husband sides with his brother, then you have a bigger problem. I would guess that the 44 year old brother is extremely jealous of you and his brother. He envies your homelife, house, kids, cars, jobs, etc. Can you imagine what it must feel like to be 44 and STILL living with your parents? What a total loser! What he was doing to you in that e-mail was trying to bring you down to his miserable level. I would just tolerate him and if he sends you another e-mail like that, simply type: You are a loser! (Send that back with no other response).
2007-05-20 13:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like neither you or your mate get along with him. So why waste precious time on him? We cant choose our family members. But that doesnt mean we need to associate with them. There are no Norman Rockwell families. That is right up there in the category of fairy tales.
2007-05-20 13:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices. You have already told him off. Now you can ignore him completely. Or you could be really nice. He is obviously a mean person, he wouldn't know what to do if you were really sweet. I use that on my children. When they are mad at me I give them a big hug and tell them I love them.
2007-05-20 13:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. I guess I don't understand what business it is of yours what your brother-in-law does. Why is he so involved in your life? Where is your husband in all this? You sound a little too sensitive. Crying hysterically, real drama queen material.
2007-05-20 13:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why even worry about a loser like that. he obviously has nothing going for him, still living at home with mommy and daddy at 44. he just wants to strike out at people who can live their own lives, since he can't and it makes him feel worthless. just feel sorry for him, he has a sad life.
2007-05-20 13:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a classless moron. It is not advice, but it is my opinion.
2007-05-20 13:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋