A few days ago he recived a call on his cell phone he look at the number and said I'm not answering and right away they left a voice mail I told him are you going to listing to message? He said no maybe later. I couldn't sleep thinking why he didn't listing to the voice mail and said nothing after that call, next day early morning i was getting ready to go to work my husband was still sleeping i pick up his phone and call back the number to hear who call and it was a man i didn't said a word i hang up so i listing to the massage a it was is co-worker calling him for a game, so i left everything the it was, but three hour late my husband call me saying that why i'm looking into his phone and start to call me names and on..... . From that day on he sleep with his phone next to him and when he is taking a shower is phone go with him on a lock door. what can you tell me, what can i do ? or what you think is going on ?
2007-05-20 05:19:51 · 18 answers · asked by evy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Fool !!!
Have you not apologized to him yet? He is a smart man to guard his phone from you. I tip my hat to him. YOU are the problem....
You need to apologize to him and stroke his ego. Apologize and tell him he is a very attractive man and you were afraid that it might have been another woman. Ask him, "will you forgive me for being afraid I might have been losing you to another woman?" This should soften his heart.......UNLESS.... you have been rubbing him the wrong way for months then you have bigger problems than a stupid phone call.
2007-05-20 05:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Felix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may have been the wise thing to do when he left and went back to his own place but it was not the loving thing to do. I am going to give you a couple of sites here. The first is to raise your self esteem because you may need that in the future regardless of whether you get back together or not Next, I will give you a test to take which took some 25 years to develop but it has been found to tell with 90% accuracy whether a marriage will fail or not. Remember though if it comes up that you may fail you can use the questions to know what to change to make it work. Finally, just to cover all the bases I will give you a marriage counseling site that the two of you can go over to try to fix your marriage. If none of those work, then you need the self esteem link to raise your self esteem and file for the divorce..
2016-05-22 00:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is not doing anything wrong, why is he getting
so angry?
Ok, evidentially he must be doing something.
Like Cheating!
By now he will put a lock on his phone. If he already hasn't done it. In the future, he is going to forget and leave his phone unattended without the lock on.
That's when you will go through his phone again. Write down the numbers. Call them using *69, then the number, if you live in the United States.
If you have to, have him followed. By you, or someone else,
or hire a Private Investigator.
Sooner or later you will find out the truth.
Good Luck To You!
2007-05-20 07:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think by any chance his male ego got hurt.First of all you are in a mess as you tried very childishly and vaguely to poke your bloody nose into his personal business.I,being a man, can tell you no husband ,no matter how caring he is, would like this kind og nuances from anybody...even from his wife.
The best way to get back your old hubby is to show that you care.Once he is convinced that your intentions were not anything bad, and trust him completely,i am sure he will be back to where he belongs...your heart!!! Don't mention or try to explain the situation as it will fume his anger.Just try to be natural and show that you care....call him by name and tell him that you love him and the way he is....(don't expect to hear the same thing back from him)....
Last but not least..pray to god and your probs will soon be solved.
2007-05-20 05:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Design Magic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs privacy. Obviously there was nothing wrong with that phone call. Now, I also think it's not fair for him to treat you as if your a stranger. You are his wife. He is making it seem as if he is up to no good and you should call him up on it. Tell him in a non-intimidating way that he is making you feel insecure and explain why. If it starts getting into an argument, then leave it alone and keep your eyes open. Don't snoop around. If he's up to no good, you won't have to snoop around, eventually it surfaces. Believe me, I know.
2007-05-20 05:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think he has something to hide acting the way he did. He is guarding that phone so you won't find other secrets. Yes it was wrong to snoop into his phone, but I think you were concerned why he was acting that way. I would have been. I think apoligizing and talking about it will help. Hopefully it was nothing, but now a days everyone has little and big secrets they keep from there spouse.
2007-05-20 06:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by Seeks the Answers 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While I can see him being upset that you went through his phone and listening to his messages, it does sound like he has something to hide. Overreactions usually only occur when people are defensive. Also, you were obsessed with this one phone call--obviously you suspected something. Sounds like there may be other things going on that lead you to believe he may be up to something.
2007-05-20 05:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What is going on it you broke his trust. Fact is you checked and call because you didn't trust him. If you don't have trust in a marriage you have nothing. He is upset because he realizes that you are not a good wife and he picked the wrong person to marry.
2007-05-20 05:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i thank it was more important to not invade his privacy then to satisfy your curiosity,tell him you should not have listened to HIS phone message without his consent .just because you are together gives no right to interfere in his other relationships .o ya what you did is what most would have done and that is why so many relationships fail .
2007-05-20 05:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by henryredwons 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may be married but he doesn't have to share everything with each other! it really wasn't right of you to listen to his messages, if it was something he wanted you to hear he would of shared it with you. but yet he had no right to yell at you the way he did. you too need to sit and talk about boundaries. you both need to apologize to each other. now he feels he can not trust you
2007-05-20 05:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by MiRaNdA rOsE 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋