Coming out?

Question

I am a lesbian and i am trying to figure out how to come out to my family any ideas?

Answer 1

Factor in some things.
1) Do you live at home? Would telling them affect your living arrangements.
2) Are you prepared for any response they are willing to give?
3)How old are you? Do you have friends that know that will support you if the family doesn't.

When you talk to them, talk as adults. Tell them you are secure in yourself and that you know what you want from life. Do not get angry at them if they react negatively. They may come around, it might just be a shock.

Or do it in a fun way. Tell them you are pregnant. When they go crazy just tell them. "Relax, Im not pregnant. I'm a lesbian." (But dont really do this LOL)

Best of luck.

Answer 2

Theres never any real easy way to come out with this fact. I know a girl whos been in a lesbian relationship for over 4 years, and only her sisters, maybe her brother and some friends know. She never told her parents, however she said one time that they were maybe suspicious.

Still thats how difficult a move it is, cos your never sure how anyone, specially family will react.

That said, if they love you in theory at least you`d expect them to accept it, even if they dont want to as your family you know.

Its as i say a real difficult matter to tackle, but i suppose it has to come to the surface sometime you know.

Answer 3

Think about it long and hard.......i dont want to be rude prepare u for the worst, say if u live at home n in the worst scenario the reacted badly n threw u out wher cld u go?? if ur at school like the cool dude below mentioned....hes right its never good to come out whilst at school....kids can b cruel, n i dont want 2 be rude again but they wont let it drop,
Personally i knew a long time before i came out, the 1st person 2 know was my twin sister, well with 9 minute difference between us were bound 2 know everything lol!!! but i jus sat me mum down with a cuppa tea n told her i was goin on a date, but i wanna b honest with her n told her it was a girl so it was all cool we jus chatted 4 hours!!

Answer 4

Sweetheart...if you are young, live with your parents, and are in school, I strongly suggest that you do NOT come out at this time...there is absolutely nothing to be gained for it, and there is a lot to loose. Everyone in your school will know, you will be the butt of jokes with everyone talking about you behind your back. Your parents may or may not take kindly to the news. Since your sexuality does NOT concern your parents in any way, keep this one to yourself until you are out on your own, making your own living, and preferably in a large city. People can be very cruel, and you would be opening the door to much cruelty. There is just no need for this at this time. I know you want to sing it from the roof tops, but if that singing brings you much pain, it would just be stupid. I mean this with NO disrespect, but this is a subject better left until you are older. We cannot control how others think, so keep in mind your happiness...good luck

Answer 5

The way I see it, there are 3 options: Stay in the closet. Tell them casually in a conversation by saying something that outs you. Or you can sit them down and do the whole long, drawn-out coming out thing. It really depends on the situation with your parents. Mostly how will they react and how close is your relationship with them.

Answer 6

Coming out is one of the hardest things you will do in your life. There are a lot of fears of rejection associated with coming out. Once you have come out and defined who you really are it can be a wonderful thing. Be real with yourself and others around you. It might hurt for a while, but it's worth it in the long run to finally be honest with the world.

Answer 7

I think it really just depends on your living arrangements and your age, and especially how open minded your family is.

Obviously, you're going to have to come out to them eventually...But if you're still dependent on them...and they aren't the most open-minded people...then you might just be screwing yourself over.

DO NOT come out on a family outing, birthday, or holiday. That is the worst thing you could possibly do. And your family will most likely resent you for it.

I recommend a quiet setting, and perhaps only your immediate family members (mom, dad).

Goooooooooood luck

Answer 8

Well, here is what I would do, at your next family outing (like a birthday, wedding, holiday,etc.) I would ask the whole family to all pay attention. Then say, "Everyone, I am Gay." You will probably expect some gasps. If someone (or someones) can't accept that, they will just have too. Maybe, if you have a partner, bring her along. They will believe you more if you bring her.

Answer 9

my niece is bi and when she was 16 she got serious with a girl and decided she had to come out to her parents she worried herself sick because her dad(my brother) always harrasses me about not being able to make up my mind I am bi and have a husband a girlfriend and a boyfriend. (Yes people everyone knows about each other) the point is i told her she should just tell them and when she did they said they loved her and if that is what made her happy so be it. you will never know until you do it

Answer 10

I'm in the same boat you're in but I'm just going to wait it out until I'm 18. my parents have already discussed the consequences with my parents, and i know I'll be getting kicked out (I'm only 15). i wouldn't have anywhere to go. as for you, sit down and weigh the outcomes. if your parents are cool, and they wont really have a problem with it go for it, and good luck!