I am sexually attracted mainly to men (well, to their genitlbes anyhow) which would mean I am gay, right? But I routinely fall in a deep loving relationship with woman (not men). Men just have never given me anything on an emotional level to feel fullfilled in that way. How can this be?
2007-05-20 04:11:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
cos you don't spend more than a one night stand with men, how can you fall in love with them?
2007-05-20 04:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by mizerio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok look. Nobody in the entire world is totally straight or totally gay except a very, very few.
It's like a line graph, with one end being straight and the other gay. People all fall somewhere in between, some closer to the gay end, some closer to the straight end, and some more close to right in the middle.
Many people don't really know for some time which gender they prefer over the other for making a committment lifetime relationship with. It takes experience, and time.
It could be that you are more attracted to men, but have not yet found a male like yourself who is interested in having a relationship on an emotional level. They ARE out there, don't give up if that's what you really want.
An important thing to remember is not to begin a relationship with a woman who falls in love with you, if you are going to end up breaking her heart because you really would rather be with men. That is a horrible thing to do, so don't do it.
Also, women get pregnant, so please be careful not to bring any children into the world with a woman who believes she is in love with you, unless you know for a fact that you'd rather be with women than men sexually and emotionally BOTH.
Otherwise you'll only end up being miserable, stuck in a relationship with a woman and a responsibility to a child for the next 20 years or so, OR you'll end up breaking both their hearts and leaving the woman without you and the child without its father in the home. This has happened to quite a lot of women, and it's always horrible.
A relationship that is the most fulfilling is one that has both the sexual AND the emotional aspect to it. It's not going to work if you're with someone who isn't contributing BOTH of these, no matter what gender they are. That's what really matters in the end.
Take your time, don't rush things, don't get involved in relationships with women you're only going to hurt in the end by leaving because they don't provide the sexual attraction you're looking for.
And don't hurt yourself by getting involved with men who can only provide the sexual aspect. That will eventually make you feel very alone and lonely.
So be picky, take your time, and find someone who can contribute BOTH aspects, and be prepared to contribute BOTH aspects yourself.
Good luck, and much success to you!
2007-05-20 11:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I read the whole comment by Julia D n...totally.
o_o I had never even consider that ehh I think u rly shud take on what she'd sed, but anyways, I don't like bi cuz all it seyz to me is greed or uncertainties.
If you don't sexually want the woman, then you r mistakin at for love. Like what had been sed, no men had given u the relationship u want YET, so ur craving for it so much(?) that it's heading forward to the straight end.
...I just hope u won't make a wrong choice.
2007-05-20 12:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jum Jum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be bisexual.
Unless you're not attracted to women at all.
In which case, you're just in denial, so you won't get to know any men because you don't want to risk a relationship because that will confirm that you are indeed gay, and someone told you that gay is bad at an influential time in life. So you go for women, because it's a defense mechanism, they don't fulfill you, but it's safe, it's common.
That's the way it generally works anyways.
But I know I've told you you're bi time and time again, you don't want to hear it, I think you want to hear that you are gay, you want someone else to take the responsibility of making up your mind. But noone knows but you.
2007-05-20 11:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sexually attracted to women or is it just an emotional attraction? You could just love the women as close friends. Maybe you just haven't met the right guy yet.
2007-05-20 11:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Rob 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yep sound bisexual, have ur flings wiv guys till ur ready to settle with a girl then wen ur ready...be with the girl.
2007-05-20 11:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by mybabyefe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you can't spell, look up the word.
2007-05-20 12:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mike G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but your a weird and confused man. maybe just go straight its probably best for you. Goodluck with all that.
2007-05-20 11:15:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
u like the cock but want the puss so yeah i agree ur pretty much greedy
2007-05-20 11:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're bisexual by definition.
2007-05-23 14:09:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋