I've been married for 7 yrs. My wife says she isn't turned on by sex and that she can live without it. On the other hand I need it often and this has created a fustration with me and I don't know what to due. This is my love language and she is not speaking it to me. Any suggestions?
2007-05-20 04:08:52 · 8 answers · asked by jabez07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You probably need to start at a doctors and get her a checkup to see if there is a physical reason she has no desire. Or is there something in her past that blunts her desire a counselor might address. Barring any of that, start looking at your lifestyle. Are things so hectic at home she's too worn out at the end of the day to even consider it? Are you pulling your share of the domestic chores?
When was the last time the two of you went out on a date? Just the two of you being just the two of you. No the car needs a tune up, or the trim needs painting, or Junior needs a new baseball glove for little league. Your emotional connection needs to be strong first before your physical desires are in sync.
2007-05-20 06:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A big mistake a lot of men make is not understanding forplay. To women it starts with things like flowers, a note or phone call JUST to say you love her, doing the cooking and dishes when she's had a rough day, helping with the kids. stuff like that.
Try this for a while with NO expectations of sex and she will probably come around. If not you need marriage counceling.
Good luck!
2007-05-20 11:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany I 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not all about sex. Sex is part of marriage. If you love your wife, you should talk to her and have her explain why all of a sudden she is not interested in sex with you, this may take more than one tries. Obvioulsy she has problem in this area. Just be a better husband and give her love, care and affection that is lacking in the marriage and she will be open with you also about her problems.
Giving is more fulfilling than taking. She needs help...help her.
Goff Luck.
2007-05-20 11:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by feysunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A womans libido is turned on BEFORE the actual start of sex. It's the attention you show her at Breakfast. The consideration you show her when you come home from work. It's how you treat her anywhere besides the bedroom.
Instead of focusing on Your physical needs start focusing on your wifes emotional needs. If you get that satisfied, she just might be more receptive to having sex with you.
2007-05-20 11:13:38 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably playing with the Little man in the boat while you are at work.
2007-05-20 11:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try sexual therapy classes they deal with this sort of thing all the time and its something you can both learn from and eventually enjoy
2007-05-20 11:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by Magster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea ! What they said.!!
2007-05-20 11:22:20 · answer #7 · answered by Rºññèè 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce her!!!
2007-05-20 11:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by malanina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋