i have residential custody.If u split visits 50/50 do u go to sport activities that fall on your ex's day?or do u just go on the days u have your child?if u do go do u all sit together or seperate?
2007-05-20 03:53:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My step-daughter is also too young for the sports issue....but he and his ex are basically split 5/50.
We have her every other day during the week, and every other weekend.
I like to think once she gets old enough we will all attend whatever events we can for her....and we will NOT sit with the wretched beast...my husband and his ex don't get along in the least.......
2007-05-20 04:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by jezyka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 50/50 set up with my ex for our son. We haven't had the sport problem as he is too young yet, but a good friend of mine is in a similer set up over sports for his two boys. He and his ex go to the games seperate, and they don't sit together. He is either helping the team by keeping score or getting equipment together. Its not tough for them cuz they know that they are there for their kids, you know? She likes it because she can leave early and he will bring the boys to her house. He likes it cuz he doesn't have 50% visitation and this gives him extra time with his kids
2007-05-20 04:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much you love your kid. If you enjoy their events, and they want you there (what kid wouldn't), BE THERE, what kid would rather have one and not the other there to support them. It is a free country, unless you have a restraining order..why not. Depends on how close you are to this -X- if you are just trying to get back or are there to spy, realize U R an X and keep your distance, you will only make your kiddo hate -you they sence these things-don't mess around..It is maturity, do you have it? Be with your kids, they need you who cares what the X thinks they should grow up and realize it isn't always about them. Go be a good parent, do not stress the kidos, (cannot realize the difference seek counseling).
2007-05-20 04:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by sli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your divorce decree should spell out the times and hours of visitation by dad and whether or not these visits are supervised or not or whether overnights are allowed. There is nothing that says you cant work out a cahnge in visits with dad if necessary. Things will come up with children and special arrangements will need to be made. This is one of the reasons for divorced parnts to remain on friendly terms
2007-05-20 04:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You divorce your husband, not your child. You should be there for your child no matter what. You don't have to sit as a family, you are not a family anymore...you just share a child together. Just letting your baby know that you are there is all that matters. Forget the ex.
2007-05-20 04:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We often both attend our kids activities regardless of who's weekend it is. His new wife's ex husband also attends many of those functions too because their kids are there. We usually sit together or at least for a little while.
2007-05-20 06:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by grumpyetal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids spend 1 evening a week with my ex and every other weekend. I used to go to all the sporting events whether it was my day or not, you have a right to and if you want to attend go no you don't have to sit with your EX. I never did. My son asked me mid season if I would not go to games on his dads week end because his step mother wouldn't attend if I was there. after that I only attended on my days. I respected my son's wishes...maybe you should ask your kid what they want you to do.
2007-05-20 04:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Holly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husb attended very few events of our daughter and she would have liked him there more. When he attended, we would be cordial but he rarely sat with us. His wife however would sometimes attend without him and she always sat with me. Over the years, we've become "friends" with my ex and his wife and new family. We've shared graduation parties and other important events of our daughter. My daughter is now 20 and is very well adjusted to having 2 families. Can't say it's been as easy with my husband and his ex-wife. But we did attend his daughter's events as well and never sat with his ex-wife. It's important however to show your children that you support them and their interests. Be there for your kids and depending on your relationship with the ex, sit where you are most comfortable.
2007-05-20 04:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mortgagemom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go, but do not site with him...
the activities for the kids are for the kids - it has nothing to do with your ex...
the marriage is over - not your parental committment.
2007-05-20 06:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by astutewoman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋