im 18
a couple of months ago i got in a chat room
just because i was bored
and i met a guy
and u know he asked me out and i said yes
but i was only playing around
now we have been talking for like a year now
i think the relationship has gotten serious (hes about to be 26)
i gave him my number( i thought i was never gonna do that)
and now were making plans of seing each other in person
but i think there one problem
im from usa
and hes
from egypt.
and a muslim
i meen i dont know t
hat kinda scares me cuz i have heard that men over there treat women real bad and all that stuff i think yall have heard too
so i just wanna hear some peoples opinion about this
ohh and do yall think hes too old for me??
thanks everybody
2007-05-20 03:50:26 · 14 answers · asked by MoNiCa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i have a friend who did the same thing as you and also had the exact sam age gap as you! however i thought this age gap to be far to big... but her internet boyfriend was scottish and she lived in wales so they werent very far apart and say eachother every couple of months however after almost a year together they broke up, it wasnt working out and she now realises it wasnt a proper relationship. I was worried for her because meeting people on the web is dangerous, there are so many missing, raped, murdered etc.. young girls just because of meeting up with men from the internet. I am on various blog websites and often hav people sending me frienship requests and messages which kind of scare me and the majority of these are muslim men. anyway to sum it up i personally dont think you should trust anyone you havent met, i mean you havent actually seen this guy in real life so how do you know he actually exists? how do you know he isnt some 60 year old pervert who is going to hurt you? I often come across people on the web who pretend to be someone they arent so its quite scary. If i were you I wouldnt meet up with him and would stop talking to him... i'm also 18 so we are both young and therefore shouldn't have to waste our time chatting to strangers on the web, we should go out and get real boyfriends whom we can have a proper relationship with... good luck with whatever choice you make!
2007-05-20 04:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by chanelle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I met a man in chat over a year ago I went to Canada after months of 1 on 1 chatting and phone calls and very high phone bills. First time I lay ed my eyes on him I thought ( what the hell did you get yourself into) but being the person I am NOT judging a book by it's cover. I stayed just to get to know him better. He even ask me to marry him. I found out he was in the pen for child molesting and wife beating and all he ever done was self gratification ALL the time Was a big time controll freak. I got the hell out of Canada in a blizard that took me 2 1/2 hours to drive 50 mile I crossed the border vowed NEVER to do that stupid trick again PLEASE BE EXTRA CAREFUL if you can have him checked out 110% settle for no less
2007-05-20 10:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by skeeter195848 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 choices...
1. end it, change your number, lose all contact with him (no need to tell him why), forget about him and find a new man.
2. tell your folks (if they don't already know about him), ask advice, don't meet him alone, keep in contact but don't jump into anything serious until one of you decides to move closer.
Long distance relationships are hard to handle at the best of times, when you haven't actually met - it's easy to get swept away by the ease and immediate phone/mail contact that you're getting without the 'real' relationship feeling. You feel free enough to enjoy your life, but loved by another person still.
I'm not going to make your mind up for you, and the age gap isn't much of an issue - but the location and religious devide could prove harder than you credit it for.
Good luck x
2007-05-20 10:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by rosinangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a little too old for you. Not that age matters, I mean... it's the internet and he's like, from the other side of the world! If you met him in person and he's at that age, it wouldn't matter... but meeting someone over the 'net is a little crazy especially since he's that age and the fact that he's totally different culture- and religion-wise.
He might be way older than he claims to be!
2007-05-20 10:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Ghost 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would advice you not to meet this guy.
You know, in the mist of NET a lots of cheatings and bad things happen. You are new in this issue so dont let yourself be in an unwanted situation.
Or else if you want to give yourself and him a chance to meet just for a try, then go with some friends to meet him and see how it goes.
I am more concerned about the safety consequences for you.
Good luck and take care
2007-05-20 10:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Johanpaul 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okaay im a muslim myself n i'll tell u 1 thing for sure... muslim men do NOT treat women real bad... it is deffintely a stupid misunderstanding. but i guess lots of men all around the world treat women badly. so it depends on the person not the religion!! and actually muslim men are extremely respectful. just be careful i think its pretty dangerous to meet some random person which u met in a chatroom.. and plus he might be lying about his age or anything.. i think u can do better but it depends on how attached u r to him.. and age doesnt matter :) good luck.
2007-05-20 10:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not too old for you.
But the fact that you guys have been chatting for a year without meeting up, you don't really know him. One year is a long time, but isn't long enough to get to know someone that you haven't even met.
No, I actually don't think you should go for it. Meet someone real you can meet in person is much better. Oh, and do not even meet him.
2007-05-20 10:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mumbling Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he's too old for you, and yes you are dealing with another culture. Egypt and the US does not have the best of relationships either. Also, he could try to use you to get a green card. If I were you, I would stop talking to this guy
2007-05-20 10:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Beach Bum Wannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were to get involved with someone on the internet thats highly common but to date someone from another country is just asking for trouble especially considering the hostility of Egypt, i mean the US doesnt even allow us to travel direct to egypt, thats bad juice. id say end it.
2007-05-20 10:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by AO 4 Yayo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry i am a muslim myself and i know for a fact,and no, no women that is egyptian gets abused badly by her husband and what not , so don't go around listening to what everyone else is saying it's not even worth your time , and no he is not too old for you!!!!!!!
2007-05-20 10:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋