I have only ever slept with one guy,that was when i was a teenager(i am 23 now.).and i have never been with anyone else since.But i have never dated or looked at females 'that way' either.
It's not an issue to me,so should i just forget about it and get on with everyday life?
I have never told my parents about sleeping with a guy either when i was younger.
2007-05-20 03:31:56 · 33 answers · asked by dusk_to_moonbeam 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sorry,when i said sleeping,i am also adding,we kinda had a fling for 2 years.
2007-05-20 03:37:32 · update #1
Blackcat,of course i wont ever tell them about my sex life.but i meant if i am gay should i tell them?
2007-05-20 03:38:56 · update #2
mizerio,good answer.
To people that question me about it not being an issue if it is..well guys,you hit the nail on the head there.I suppose for everyone that thinks something is not an issue to them,but it really is.thats why i asked this question.Because i suppose really it is to me.
2007-05-20 04:12:10 · update #3
from what you said what came to my mind was you either naturally have a very low sex drive or could be asexual. in my own life i have only slept with men but very rarely and at 33 i have come to terms with my very low sex drive.
2007-05-20 09:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of guys, whatever their sexuality, don't get that active an interest or sexual activity with other people, male or female. We now live in a society that is much more sex-obsessed than probably, ever before and this does pressurise people.
I hate labels, as it usually limits people - don't rush into doing anything other than understanding your own needs, which is what you seem to be doing. I wouldn't fall into the trap either of having other people push you one way or the other: this is your life; please take things at your own pace and in your own way.
I don't live a prescribed life, I'm just me, doing my own thing. OK, I'm interested in learning from others wisdom and experience but I'm always happier following my own instinct.
Maybe your first relationship took some time to adjust from, (many do) and only now are you beginning to understand yourself more. There are also other pressures on us when we're younger, like studying and career.
As you've been a little confused, I wouldn't push yourself into a dating hermits land, as you could end up missing out on understanding yourself better and having fulfilling experiences. Reflect and try to understand what you liked, and maybe didn't, with your first partner and relationship. What did you learn? What might you do differently? What do you really need to be happy?
I can't give you any answers, I can only be a friend to help you understand yourself some more. My overall instinct is never to rush anything: I've learned the hard way sometimes, from doing that! On the flip side, maybe you're now at a stage in your life when you could emerge as a beautiful butterfly, after some deeper changes and understanding yourself better. I think it would be a pity if you were single for too long, maybe even the rest of your life, as we can grow when we're involved with others. Sorry if I've pushed you a little on this, I try to be non-directional, but have failed somewhat: I hope that was ok for you.
Take it easy and good luck! Rob (I never kiss guys/anyone in my messages, but today's an exception, as you've been starved of connection for so long) x
2007-05-20 05:09:09 · answer #2 · answered by Rob E 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Why make it a issue if it's not ??. You are doing the right thing at the moment just getting on with your life.
One day you will meet someone man or woman, your heart will race your head will spin and that will be that.
Maybe you could find a relationship with either sex , lucky you ,
No need to involve your parents on this unless you wish to of coarse.
ps. just read additions, a 2 YEAR RELATIONSHIP !!!
yes you could be gay for sure !!!!
All the best !!!!
2007-05-20 03:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your Gay, if you don't even look or feel any sexual desires for women then yes you like men, especially if you have had a fling for 2 yrs...
Its time to step out of the closet...
It might be unnerving and a bit scary but have a coming out party, invite all your closest friends and let them know, its the best way to do it!
I advise that you tell your parents and family in private as a means of respect...
Best of Luck!
2007-05-20 03:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by celtic_colieen 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think you have to test the waters again. Try dating a girl then try dating a guy, just see which one feels more natural and more right. Honestly it's hard to tell after one experience when you were young, but I think that if growing up you were questioning it too, then there definitely is a possibility.
And if you are, good for you! and if not, well then that's perfectly good as well.
I would just not come out to your parents until you know for sure.
Good luck
2007-05-20 03:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by caitlin c. 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, you need to ask yourself "To whom am I attracted to?", are you attracted to guys? To girls? To both?
If you find you are only attracted to guys then you are most likely gay, if only attracted to women you would be straight, if to both as I am, you are Bi-sexual.
As far as discussing ones sex life with their parents goes, I would not recommend it, it is not antibody's business who you sleep with except for those with whom you actually sleep with.
If you feel you must tell your parents you are gay, then tell them but they are not going to want to hear the details of your sexual encounters whether you are gay, straight or bi.
I have been Bi all my life, I do not make an issue of it, I sleep with whom I choose, when I choose, and do not discuss my sex life with anybody who is not involved in it.
So... only you can answer the question, "Am I gay".
2007-05-20 06:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by bender_xr217 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A heterosexual young man in his teens to early 20s should be looking at females "that way"! Complete lack of any romantic or sexual interest in females as a man at that age is almost unheard of, how can you be so nonchalant about that? You're almost certainly gay and probably need to give some serious evaluation to your life, unless you just want to remain asexual which is your prerogative.
2007-05-20 04:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by lordwashu13 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Lots of boys fool around with other boys but it isn't an indication of homosexuality. But here are good definitions of what a homosexual and a heterosexual is. See if either of these might appliy to you:
HETEROSEXUAL ("straight"): a male or female who is mentally, emotionally, physically, genetically and sexually attracted, and feels internally connected, only to other human members of the opposite gender, and who can enter into a romantic and sexual relationship or union only with members of the opposite gender.
HOMOSEXUAL ("gay/lesbian"): a male or female who is mentally, emotionally, physically, genetically and sexually attracted, and feels internally connected, only to other human members of the same gender, and who can enter into a romantic and sexual relationship or union only with members of the same gender.
-Rev. Jim Cunningham
GayChristianSurvivors.com
2007-05-20 03:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by kjv_gods_word 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Only you will be able to tell that for sure. One experience may not mean you are gay. Do you feel sexually attracted to men, and not to women? If the answer is yes, then you are gay. If you feel equally attracted to both men and women, you are bisexual.
2007-05-20 03:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Gaymes Last Orchestra 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
only YOU can answer this question. if you are attracted only to men, and not to women....then you are gay.
...and since you added that it was a "2 year fling" instead of just 1 time, then my best guess would be, yes...you are gay.
2007-05-20 04:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋