it was actually my 1st serious one with my 1st love ...!! I've given so much of me in that relationship ..and I suffered a lot ... I did the impossible and even forget to make the relationship work but it failed anyway .....Now, I have trauma ...At the same time, I don't my ex, but I can't see her anymore, I can't even talk to her ..it reminds of both good and very bad souvenirs , most are bad ...!! I don't know what will be my reactions if I see her again ..Feelings are still there ..and I can't forget her ... and the problem now is that she's going to a gym I'm going to ..and now she changes time to be the same as me ....I don't want to keep running ...I like the club, I am in ...and I don't know what to do ... What can I do ?
2007-05-20 00:36:11 · 2 answers · asked by Roy A 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I know it's hard, but I think it's even harder to keep running. Try to not see her, and ignore her completely -- any stress you feel from doing this can be taken out on the bicycle or exercise machines. (Just be careful!)
If she approaches her, tell her bluntly, "I can't stand to even look at you yet. Please leave me alone." There's not much she can say about that. But if she keeps trying, you may have to change your gym time after all. You might talk to the gym personnel about your problem too -- they may have seen this problem before, and can give you some good advice, or figure out a way to let you exercise in peace.
2007-05-20 00:50:31 · answer #1 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have three basic choices here:
1) change times you go to the gym. Don't go the same time every day or every week.
2) change gyms. This may be a lot easier to say than to do.
3) confront her with a conversation on the topic not knowing how such a conversation would really go.
Personally, I think choice 1 and 2 are better choices here.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-05-20 00:43:25 · answer #2 · answered by G A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋