I get bored of people very easily. I can stand only very few folks- my family, and a couple of close friends for a longer time. I cannot stand boring conversation, and I think that sows on my face, as I recently found out. (One person actually asked if I were bored.) I cannot tolerate small talk.
In short, I want to have meaningful conversations, not silly, frivolous boring stuff about this actor's love life, and the neighbour's somestic affairs!
The problem is, as I said, I think without meaning to, I show my feelings on my face. I've tried and tried to stop it, but I think it still somehow shows... I don't want to be rude, and I dont want to hurt anybody.
Ideas? (Short of cosmetic surgery....)
2007-05-19 23:43:39 · 15 answers · asked by debergeracvat 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Smile and nod your head.
2007-05-19 23:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have a difficult time putting on a "false face".
When people came to my mother's memorial mass, I greeted everyone at the church entrance. The people who were less important to me were easy to greet. I was completely composed. But those select few who meant a lot to me immediately brought out a torrent of uncontrollable tears.
Since then, I tried pretending I'm an actor. You can imagine that you are a secret agent, and you need to ingratiate yourself with the person you are speaking with. Therefore, you imagine that the person is actually saying something interesting. It works for me.
If the conversation is mind-numbingly boring, try redirecting it. If your neighbor is talking about some airhead, frivolous actor's latest hissy fit, find something about the story to redirect the conversation to something more interesting. For example, if someone is talking about a Hollywood star, say, "Hey, speaking about a different kind of star, I just read a fascinating article about the light emitted from stars through gaseous nebulas, right in our own solar system. There are fascinating fotos on-line. You will literally see something that is hundreds of millions of miles away!"
Trust me, people will soon get the hint that their topics of conversation are a little too pedestrian for you, and they may try to raise the caliber of their small talk.
2007-05-20 07:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by pachl@sbcglobal.net 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to consider the source. Meaning, maybe you want to pick out other people to talk to who do not threaten you with boaring topics. To find an interesting person that gets you thinking, rather than wondering the best way to get out of a conversation.
Another thing to do would be to change the conversation to your favour- to something that you would enjoy to discuss.
Hurting people's feelings will always happen, since not everyone is satisfied. One cannot satisfy all.
2007-05-20 06:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by Allie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get interested to the people & to yourself. How? well by way of finding new topics that u think they might interested to, but if they cannot drive with your conversation just tell them frankly maybe they will understand you & they could another topic that all of you can enjoy about like educational lesson or whatever.
Don't feel bored, value people & get interested about life & I'm sure you will enjoy it once you are dealing the agnificent story about life. Don't you think so?
2007-05-20 06:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Dawnz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Small talk isn't supposed to be interesting, It's helps to establish links with some without either person having to reveal too much about them self. It's an important part of how we get to know each other. Or maybe you're just a bit of a snob and think trivial tittle-tattle is beneath you.
2007-05-20 06:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mad Professor 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. Pretend you are being paid loads of money to talk to them. Look them directly in the eye and hold their gaze. if you nod your head in the right places, you could actually be thinking about anything else you like. It's a bit like doodling when someone boring is on the phone at work!
2007-05-20 09:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by caroline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly how you feel alot of the time these days people are so into commercial life like who went out with who and that girls is not wearing the latest shoes etc...... and it is soooooo boring, i now walk away or try and find a lead in the convo to turn it around to something more of a debate and intresting, i love getting into heated debates and having proper convo, you have not proberly got a boring life thats why..... your not alone
2007-05-20 06:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by kiwi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try changing the subject, or failing that think of something that you enjoy; while they prattle on, but then again your idea of a conversational topic probably would bore the pants off someone else?
Swings and roundabouts:
2007-05-20 06:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest tell them surface people are of no interest to you and that mundane conversation bores you. Perhaps you should carry a smmall book of a kind around with you to read
2007-05-20 06:53:38 · answer #9 · answered by cheyan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are bored you rest ur head on your hand. but if you wanna kinda do tht but not look borred put ur thumb under ur chin and ur 2 fingers up towards ur ear... that way u look remotely interested but u are resting.
2007-05-20 06:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by kiah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try to relate interesting and funny events to whats that is said
change the topic as soon as you can
2007-05-20 06:52:53 · answer #11 · answered by Wai Cheung 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋