I've been divorced since 1999. I don't have children, but love them. I have a good job, keep my bills paid, have a wide variety of interests, I'm friendly and approachable, and I respect others. I done eveything that I can think of to attract a mate, but don't have one. I even gone a far as changing my clothing style, but to no avail. When I do date, I always hear afterward that I am such a nice man and would make someone very happy, but they just want to stay friends. Nothing else. Most just want a friend with benefits and only want me around when it suits them.
Other than companionship with my cat, am I just meant to be alone. If I am, then I can handle it. I'm just so tired of the games that women play.
2007-05-19 22:32:10 · 7 answers · asked by dakotaviper 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Refer to my remark that I've done everything that I can think of when you are answering this question. Church, clubs, sports, you name it and I've done it. I am acceptable to all races, all nationalities, all sizes, all types, and everrything else. Now what?
2007-05-19 22:57:49 · update #1
Oh, by the way people, I'll be 41 in July. Plus, as far as being responsible, I'm in upper management with my job.
2007-05-19 23:00:36 · update #2
I see what are you trying to say...and we are in the same boat.
I will tell you the cure according to my experience.
Life the life. don't excpect anything. Don't think that you are meant to be alone. Cuz you wont. But you are meant to be in this particular period. So in this period try to experience something that you haven't. Try to explore your inner beauty, your qualities, try to improve yourself...and who knows maybe just in the process of your perfection you will find the perfect woman for you.
Cuz you deserve this.
I wish you luck my dear.
2007-05-20 08:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by Aquamarine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, maybe your meeting the wrong woman in a wrong
meeting place.
Look this may or may not help. Have you ever been interested in a sport. or club whereby youare able to meet some very nice sinlge woman or divorcee etc.
Meeting people in bars / pubs etc not exactly the most attractive of places to meet. You have to yell above the crowd or band and to some it can be rather annoying. Most of the time they are not listening and they are busy looking around the bar to take an interest in what you have to say.
The trick is to find a sport like Tennis and join a Tennis club or a club of sorts where both sexes enjoy. Tennis is avery popular one and of course there is the gym.
However there are other ways. Singles club etc.
Give it a shot. Good Luck
2007-05-20 05:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by aotea s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a great guy. Sometimes attraction doesn't happen right away. It's good to be friends first. So be friends with some women. It could turn into something else. I'm married and my husband and I were friends for 6 months before we decided we needed to be more than friends. That was 13 years ago and we're still crazy about each other and have a lot in common thanks to our friendship. It's great being married to your best friend. To meet nice women, go to church. Join some groups. A cat club would be a great way to meet women. Women love men who have cats (or dogs). Not all women play games, you know. Perhaps you're going after the wrong sort. Looks aren't everything, you know. A sense of humor is a great place to start.
2007-05-20 05:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not meant to be alone... nobody is! So suck it up and quit whining. As for your question younger women want fun, comedian and responsible mates. Kinda old fashion but is in touch with the new. If you've had your fun and ready to commit than get yourself an older woman. Older women do not have time to waste and are tired of the cheating. So when dealing with young you date and when dealing with old they investigate... are u married, any kids, is the divorce final, do you live at home, what is your tax bracket, do you drive????????? So in a nut shell if you are not ready than have as much fun while young. You will find the one when you stop looking for it. Yup you heard me right...stop looking and it will blow your mind when it hits you. Learn to love yourself before loving another. Use this time for you. Don't be so down on yourself.
2007-05-20 05:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by Wen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do all men want in todays world? We can ask the same questions.... nobody wants to be alone... but some humans can not be even happy when they're not alone.... but everybody wants to be so happy and happiness is for everybody so different!!! Perhaps you have to search for a lady from another country? Perhaps you should look right next to you? Perhaps... As many people, as many advises.... don't loose the hope, that's what helps us to survive!
2007-05-20 06:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello. I know how you feel. i have not been divorced, but i am always getting oh, you are a great person and a great friend, but not for them. They get close to me and just want to stay close friends, so i have all these guy (friends) that I am close to but they wont take it further. Maybe it is just that we have not meet the right person yet. Good Luck. Hope you find your Ms. Right.
2007-05-20 05:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by pingm2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They look for man money and sex
2007-05-20 05:36:54 · answer #7 · answered by mostafa 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋