I am soory to ask that question?But i really want to know it.
Because of kids or love or cheat or somethings???
2007-05-19 17:47:11 · 12 answers · asked by amee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you answer your own question. it all of above. there is
no one answer to why this happen.
2007-05-19 17:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The number one cause of divorce is addiction which includes alcohol, drugs and gambling. This has been fairly steady for 20 or 30 years. (not many divorces in my family, but this was the cause of all but one).
The second (which is way down there) is adultery.
Third and fourth alternate between several things and I never keep track, but they boil down to incompatibility and lack of communication.
In-laws come in at number 5.
Mental illness is also in the top 10; yeah...people never think of that one.
Children are a cause of divorce, it's not a big cause. Usually it's a disagreement over how they should be raised rather than the child. It's a bigger problem in remarriages because the kids don't want mom or dad to marry someone else. Given that I now know of 3 couples (remarriage) where the kids were the cause of the split, I would say that it's in the top 5 of remarriages and probably mostly to do with dealing with the ex-spouse.
Does that help? Please note that these are overall.
2007-05-19 17:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by TotalRecipeHound 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all its not your fault, some people just cannot keep a marriage together. Divorce happens to 50% of all marriages. It is a horrible sad fact, and everyone suffers because of it. Most people getting a divorce thought that whatever was wrong in the marriage to begin with would change, and it never did. It is best that you don't know why. Know they both love you but cannot be married anymore. They will be happier apart, and that is best. If they are unhappy in the marriage, everyone else, including you, will feel it too.
2007-05-19 18:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by adriannamarie19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the behavior of one or both spouses is beyond the importance of the marital vows (promises/covenants).
This may be because the behavior is extraordinarily bad (cheating, abuse, etc) or the importance of the vows has decreased (not worth the headaches, too much work, not enough sex, money problems, kid problems).
It is rarely BECAUSE of the kids, they are just the ones who suffer the most. That is largely b/c no one takes the time to explain that it is a Mommy-Daddy issue, that they have no fault for. But, often, the parents are acting like 3-year-olds towards each other. This sends the message to the kids that its okay to behave this way, its okay to blame others for your problems (which society re-inforces) and so the next generation will act just like their parents (statistics show odds of getting a divorce increase if your parents were divorced).
--Z--
2007-05-19 17:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by Z-Force920 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids doesn't have anything to do with the divorce of two people, the main reason why we end up on a divorce is lack of communication, respect, and the most sin is cheating.
2007-05-19 18:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are CLOSE but not close enough---the NUMBER ONE CAUSE FOR DIVORCE in the USA or ANYWHERE ELSE is a breakdown in communication.... people just forget HOW to communicate---over time, they talk less and less and tend to grow apart..... other mitigating factors include additions, finances, an affair, and mistrust...but NONE of these would occur if communication was always open and free flowing.... people lose interest in each other because they lose interest in TALKING, in knowing what the other one wants.... even in sex..... if you keep doing the same old thing, it gets boring---if you want to try something new you have to COMMUNICATE that to your partner---too many couples don't do that, so even sex happens less and less often...sad but true. As long as a couple can communicate with each other, the chances are, their marriage would last till it's suppsed to---TILL DEATH US DO PART.
2007-05-19 18:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People get divorced because of lack of communication. When you stop talking to each other thats when problems start.Yeah, people who cheat and lie and hurt the other person are just selfish and have no respect for themselves or their partner. Marriage is a beautiful thing but it has to be worked on or it will fall apart. Talking to each other is the best way to stay close.
2007-05-19 18:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by mrs_c_hern 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think theres a main reason other than incompatibility. You would pretty much have to take a poll of people who are divorced.
2007-05-19 18:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one reason for divorce is marrige ,avoid marriage avoid divorce .Until you and your partner in crime fully understand and respect the commitment that it takes for such a simple but complex task only then with pre marriage counseling and a pre-nup would I say ..........I DO !!!???
2007-05-19 18:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by tommyman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I WERE to get divorced tomorrow, it would be because my husband is insensitive, and unaffectionate. But I am not planning on it any time soon :)
2007-05-19 17:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by casper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
never the kids.....for me the only reason i would divorce my hubby is cuz he cheated on me...i love him to death & i dont see myself with anyone but him...i love my kids & if it wasnt for him they wouldnt be here......my hubby is my best friend, soul mate, & love......but if he very disrespect me & cheats on my or even hit me then im packn my things & my kids things & im walking.....god bless
2007-05-19 18:04:26 · answer #11 · answered by ~i love my boys~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋