my 15 yr old daughter stole my car and went out joy riding all night how should i handle this?

Answer 1

HO LEE CRAP
Ground her for her natural life, take away all of her posessions except for her clothes?
Oh god I would lose it...I am sure many people will say "sit down and calmly discuss why you are upset reassure that you love her but are dissapointed in her and ask if whe could make smarter decissions in the future"
Hell no I would scream, take away everything that makes life worth living for months.

She needs SEVERE discipline!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I can tell you that I have seen a lot of 15 year olds do this and you need to ground her definitely for what you feel is best. I feel that 2 weeks at minimum or a month is a good idea. DO NOT let her off with a few days grounding, etc or you are not teaching her and she may do it again and she could get seriously hurt. She will probably NoT be entirely honest with you either about who she picked up or where she went but I mean I would ground her, take away her phone, computer, and whatever is important to her for about a month at least. Two weeks is okay but I think this is not enough of a punishment for something of this magnitude.

Answer 3

I'd say to her that her behavior was very immature, SO immature that you'll have to re-think letting her get her license at 16. Tell her if she wants you to think otherwise, she'll have to figure out on her own how she'll prove herself to you.

Because really, so what if you punish her or ground her? What did she really learn? Just let her know that you're very disappointed in her and that you had thought that she was more responsible than this. Even for a teen, losing a parent's trust and feeling that they've let you down is a big deal-- much bigger than if you throw a fit and do the typical punishment. She'll think, "Whatever... just another day..."

Answer 4

That is very serious. I think she should be grounded for a month and have ALL privileges taken away during that time. She must be made to understand how much trouble she might have gotten into, and that you might have been held liable for her actions. Let her know that she will now have to re-earn your trust. And keep your car keys with you at all times in future. I'd also take a very close look at the company she is keeping and possible change it.

Answer 5

i would have never thought that this would have happened
to anyone else besides me. my daughter did the same
thing. took my car and went to pick up this little boy and
she had the nerve to leave me a note saying that she took
the car and that she will be fine and not to worry. anyhow
i went looking for her and it took us 5 hours to finally get
a hold of her. we finally caught her when she was dropping
off the boy at his house. and that is when all hell broke
loose. at the time she was living with her dad and a couple
days before that she ran away from her dad's house so i
brought her over her with me to give her some time away
from her dad. see her dads plan was to get out of paying
child support and it worked.... the only thing you can do is
keep close tabs on her. ground her, take away the phone
and not let her go anywhere for a long while.....we even
threatned to send her to boot camp....... she has some
what changed and has also learned a hard lesson that
some boys only want one thing..... sad but true..........
it is hard and sometimes complicated but it is some-
thing we all have to go through. and everyone finds their
own way of dealing with it... what ever you choose i wish
you the best of luck and hope everything will turn out
alright,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, good luck and best wishes.............

Answer 6

My little brother who is 15 did the same thing the other night with my moms car. but its actually isnt the first time it happend. so my mom called the cops on him to give him a scare. unfortually they couldnt do anything becuase of his age. my mom woke up around 1 am and went outside and saw her car was gone and checked my brothers room too see that he put pillows under the covers to make it seem like he was there. my mom locked the doors on him and at 3 am he showed up knocking on the door because he had no way in. gave him a fright .

Answer 7

well sometimes the best punishment is no punishment at all. I have had conversations w/my grown children and they told me that the one thing I did was tell them that I was very disappointed in their actions. Than walked away. I have also made them pick the punishment and be responsible for abiding by it.Being abusive or putting down your own punishment shows the kids your power as a parent. Going the other route shows them the power of unconditional love. By the way my children are wonderful responsible adults

Answer 8

I wouldn't let her get her liscence. Driving is a responsibility, not a right and she has shown you she is not yet responsible enough to handle it. OR if she wont be getting it until shes 18 (I am not all the way up to date on the laws now) Ground her from all car privledges. no rides. Public transportation, walking or riding a bike will suit her needs just fine.

Answer 9

some police stations run programs for drunk drivers where they are taken through a morgue& shown what can happen to reckless drivers. I would highly recommend this - if not the morgue then definately the hospital to talk to people that were injured by reckless drivers. Grounding may work, but unfortunately not always. Also suggest moving the car keys to somewhere she can' get them?

Answer 10

Wow...definitely doesnt deserve to get her drivers permit if she doesnt have it yet. Ground her for a couple weekends. No cell phone for a week or two. Dont do anything too extreme. Teenagers know what they did was wrong but after about a week they think theyve been punished enough and will try to guilt you outta the punishment...and it will work.