I have been wondering for about a year now. I have had a crush on one of my best friends for about two years now. I think i am gay, and I think he may be gay. We are both 16 years old, and have gone to skool 2gether since 1st grade. we g2 different skools now cuz he goes to a diferent highschool district. but we went to skool together for 8 grades. through those years and even now because we still hang out and what not, he hasnt told me of any crushes on girls, hasnt had any gf's, once we were goin pee and he pulled out his whole package next to me. another time we were wrestlin/havin pillow fight and i grabbed him from behind nd hugged him 4 like 2 mins and he didnt mind. another time we were in the basement and he was on the comp chair nd i came over and sat on him and he didnt care. he looks me in the eyes alot and smiles. do u think hes gay? what should i do? should i hug him? kiss him? ask him? show him my ___? lol any advice. many thanks!!!
2007-05-19 16:29:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My thoughts on this matter make me think he may be gay, so it's good for you. It sounds like you guys would make a cute couple! Gay love is the best, I think it's sweet how you care for someone.
I think you should calmly ask him when the two of you are alone, and tell him that you're putting all of your confidence into him to keep it a secret (if you don't want anything getting out).
Email/YIM me if you want to talk more.
2007-05-20 05:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow sounds like your in a bind. Well I wouldn't do anything crazy like kissing him or showing him anything. I would ask him. But some of that sounds like stuff that guys do anyways but the hugging and the no girlfriend thing eh.. Well this might not help much but ask him. And if he gets offended tell him in a joking way that he was acting gay.. my friend is gay and he did the same thing. He and his friend laughed it off. While another one of my friends hooked up without a problem. Its up to you if you feel something for him I say go for it but if your really to afraid of ruining your friendship wait a little longer.
2007-05-19 16:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just ask him if he's gay or at least if he has a crush on you. He might just be a little feminine for a guy or maybe he is gay. The only way you will find out for sure is to just ask him. As for what you two should do together that's totally your business and your judgement.
2007-05-19 16:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jyse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with 'hidden' - just tell him you're interested and ask him what his thoughts are. I think by now, based on what you've said you've done/he's done, that it's a possibility. I remember the guys I grew up with and they would not have taken kindly to another guy, even a good friend of theirs, sitting on their lap.
I'd start off with something simple though - telling and asking; starting off with a kiss may be too overwhelming.
2007-05-19 16:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by MysticSong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always best to be honest.
Talk to him and ask him what he thinks of gays. If you two are really close then try asking him. He may open up more. If he's accepting of gays, you can tell him about you.
Or write it in a note. When I didnt want to confront someone in highschool, I'm write it in notes '^_^
2007-05-19 20:21:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are all signs that he is as interested in you as you are in him. I recommend you to ask him what are his feelings about gay people? Then, have a serious talk with him, and ask him to promise you not to end the friendship after what you have to tell him. If he does not like guys and he is your true friend he will have no problem with it
2007-05-19 16:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by J : 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well don't hurry in if you really are attracted to him
and beleive me, U KNOW when youre attracted to someone
otherwise you wouldn't be putting this question, yes?
just go for it, you have a whole life ahead of you
you'll regret it if you don't make a move
i know i would
just ask him what he thinks about you, on a relationship level and wether or not he's interested in you
good luck :D
2007-05-19 16:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by vikingmuffin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want my advice or my opinion...what you really want to know is if he's available :) ....I guess the only way you are ever gonna know is to ask him...or tell him that you are gay. Good Luck.
2007-05-19 16:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he is just as interested in you as you are in him. Just ask him - you both will be better off if you clear the air. Best wishes.
2007-05-19 16:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by zowar1363 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i wanna know if ur a guy...but i kinda figured taht out
ur whole story is really cute...the whole package thing made me laugh hah~!
but the pillow fight and smiles is all really sweet
i say talk to him, see what he says
2007-05-19 16:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by high_on_life 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋