I have really low self-esteem I just returned to work about 2 mo. ago and now since I am getting out of the house I am constantly getting hit on.I don't dress releving or anything like that.I don't know how to take a complment because I been at home for the past 4 years so I am not use to this.Any advise on how to handle this.
2007-05-19 16:07:39 · 23 answers · asked by what did you say 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I work in the public at a large office store and so I get it there.Even when I was in my houseclothes and went to the gas station.I don't hear it from my husband so I guess that why I take it to heart from other people
2007-05-19 16:16:11 · update #1
Hit on or compliments? Hit on to me means more then a simple compliment. If your married getting hit on can be uncomfortable. Compliments, are OK. They are a nice gesture from anyone. Maybe the compliments will help your self esteem? Remember when someone gives you a compliment they are being genuine, and polite. Say thank you that was very kind of you.
2007-05-19 16:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess you started off with "I love my husband so much" because you want to say you are not cheating.
The most appropriate way to handle yourself in a service oriented job in an open environment is always keep a gentle smile and be pleasant and polite. Smile and say thank-you can take care of all compliments. If your boss says you are doing a good job, say thank-you, I appreciate that.
There is such as thing as "conduct unbecoming" in the kind of job you are in. If you are hit on by coworkers, just be firm and say you are married. If it is a customer, say "thank you but my husband and kids are need me at home tonight, or something" Customers usually don't push or complain about you. There are also supervisors who could be watching you.
2007-05-19 23:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "thankyou" and move on. There are alot of desperate men out there in the world. I have been married 12 years, I work p/t in a restaurant as a server and get hit on ALL the time. I am a mother of three girls too. I just take the compliment, say thankyou and go on with my life. Just because a man compliments you doesn't mean you need to entertain them. Just realize you are an attractive woman and people notice and go on with life. You are married, love your husband and he loves you ( I gather). Why ruin a good thing over a compliment? You'll probably get 34890843958 more in your lifetime. My advice to you is to just say "thanks" and move on.
2007-05-19 23:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it as a compliment, not only for you but your husband as well.
A woman is only a reflection of her man.
I look d*** good and I work with nothing but men. I love to get complimented on my appearance and no I do not have low self esteem issues. What woman would'nt want to be hit on when she walked out the door??
Take the compliments and stop putting too much into it. If you love your husband sooo much then no other man's compliments can have an affect on you.
2007-05-20 00:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember you LOVE your husband at all times. Someone complimenting you is always nice and boosts your ego but remember they do it to others as well. Don't take it seriously and tell anyone who hits on you, with no uncertain terms, you are married, end it right away before it starts. You took vows, now remember them. Cheating is a sin and so unfair to the other partner. Say thank you and leave it go at that.
2007-05-19 23:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you.
When someone gives you a compliment, smile, thank them and look them in the eye and move on either physically or mentally. You can do this by asking a question that changes the subject, or agree with them because your husband thinks so too. Either way they should realise the subject is closed down, but that you appreciated the compliment anyway. And who doesnt appreciate compliments.
2007-05-19 23:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take the complement. Complements will raise your self esteem.
I know what you mean I have low self esteem also, but when someone says something nice to me it makes me feel better about myself. You will get used to it after a while though, So don't worry about it.
2007-05-19 23:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should make you feel wonderful. We as a society tend to think if we are in a committed relationship or married that we cannot appreciate beauty of another person or accept when someone says it to us. Be thankful that you still got it going on and be proud of yourself. And tell that husband of yours to start noticing you or else..., lol.
2007-05-23 22:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "I am sorry but I am married" if they are asking you out and "Thank you" if is a polite compliment. If its a "Hey babe great melons" either give the evil eye or ignore it (ignoring usually works best).
An tell your husband it happens, maybe just every once in a while or even just once. Remind him or what a great catch he has.
2007-05-19 23:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to get on down the road. You are married you have to remember there is evil in this world and there is good. Any time people get married satan will try to get one of the two to give him a enterence. So use wisdom and keep yourself from evil.
2007-05-19 23:12:39 · answer #10 · answered by the light exposes the darkenss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋