am I a N***er?

Question

My moms bf refers to my brother and I as N***ERS.

My mom dad divorced, a year later rekindles her friendship with this man in prison, and then as soon as he gets out she lets him move in....he jobless, hits her (hand open) she said that made a difference...developed a drug problem and cheated! and after ALL OF THIS SHE MARRIES HIM w/o a JOB! so she supported my brother and I , HIS DRUG HABIT, his ex wife who also a crack head and their two kids.!

He goes back to prison they divorce, he gets out...and still refers to me and my brother as her N***er children...and NOW he his drug problem has gotten worse, he lives in a broken down trailer....his ex wife still has one, and his son has a drug habit, while his daughter is slutty! while my bro and I arent Perfect we are NOWHERE near that kind of deliquency!

Should I be offended she has involved herself with the MORE, than my brother and I???? Just curious.

btw...my brother and I are mixed mexican and BLACK...mymom mexican and her bf mexican!

I am nineteen...I moved out because of her issues...and i quote, "YOU ACCEPT HIM OR LEAVE" so I left didnt speak to her for weeks, and now we talk about it she says YOU LEFT BECAUSE YOU WANTED TO LEAVE...o yea I wanted to live with my boyfriend and his crowded familY!!!!

she has been there for us...if we needed anything...she just has always had our problems PLUS HIS WHOLE FAMILY...so it was never fully about us...unless she was mad at him!!

HE"S NOT MY FATHER....and my father doesnt acknowledge us, he has a family in another state!

NO i go to school full time to be a paralegal
and am out the door!

Answer 1

Sorry to hear you have all those problems. I can't say anymore than whats already been said here but it seems everyone is giving good advise. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Well, I would be offended... But you sound like you are making better choices than your Mom has made in life.

You are not the "N" word. Your mom's bf is a stupid, worthless crackhead and has no reason to criticize you or your brother.
And I hope your mom will get away from him. She could do much better in the choice for a boyfriend/husband.

And it does matter if someone hits her. It's domestic violence and it's against the law. I hope she finds some self esteem and that she will meet someone who will treat her much better. At the rate she's going, she (and you) would be better off with no man in her life at all.

Answer 3

Get away from these people you need people that are going to push you up and not people pushing you down. I would move far away and start a whole new life. Take your brother with you. She is showing you that you have no vote in her life and taking your joy from you. The world is a big place don't settle for this it is not NORMAL!

Answer 4

No, sweetie. You are *not* a n****r. HE is the n****r...that word to me has only represented filth. It comes from filth to mean filth. It is a filthy word, used by and for filth. Don't be offended by your mothers actions. People often make really bad choices when they are lonely and people also throw their dirt off onto other people trying to keep people from seeing their own dirt. I'm really sorry for your situation, but there are people out there who have great, professional and most times free advice to youngsters in your situation. Try this link and God Bless you and your brother.
www.girlsandboystown.org

Answer 5

Oo-ee, man you've got a heavy load to carry. Try to focus on when you become eighteen and can leave home. Make plans. Educate yourself the best way you can. You'll never resolve your Mom's issues. It's good you don't identify with it much. Find things that give you joy. Strive for them. Stay healthy and prosper. I wish you every good fortune in the world.

Answer 6

look hunny i've had a troubled life and its time for you to get real and go to college nursing is a good paying job and a good advancement in the work field get you resources together check out places that will help u pay for school and mooooove on becuz your child hood has ended and if you dont want to end up in a sticky situation take my advice and monday morning get busy ,,,girl i mean it becuz i have lived in similar situation and before you get pregnant and get OLDER make your move w/ god on your side you'll be alright

Answer 7

Where is your little brother?

You have a lot on your young shoulders but you are so smart to have left that house and are so smart for getting educated. You will have a job, can support yourself and broke the cycle of addiction and abuse. And to answer your original question; your Mom's bf is just trying to belittle you with words. Ignore him like you have been doing.

APPLAUDING LOUDLY FOR YOU !!!
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Answer 8

Sorry should be call nice names,sweet heart or sunshine .I do hope your life ends up better what you say you are having.
By learning from this you know try get a nice man when your older ready to merried love your children and call them loving sweet name. that way your childern never for get your love.
By..Sunshine.giving you a Star for your write up. Good Luck
And happeyness.

Answer 9

if I was you, I would leave your mom alone...how dare she allow someone in your lives with that perspective on life. I am surprised you have anyself respect after seeing and hearing your moms excuses. I suggest she fully commit herself to god, and find and help herself before she can even help your brother and you. It sounds like she maybe on drugs. WOW after he got out of prison she allowed him your life..how did she not knw he wouldnt molest yall? idk...some people shouldnt be allowed to be parents with their poor choices. just pray and leave her alone and leave it in gods hands!

Answer 10

Why cant the white race comprehend our reason and stick to it. Why do yall could desire to ask us each 5 seconds lol? This same question could properly be asked to the white race. Ive considered white ppl call one yet another crackers so on the instant it quite isnt purely my race utilising theyre very own racial phrases "against them". yet ok, truthfully undemanding effortless awareness could properly be utilized to verify the top results of why my race has used the N recognize their very own conversations. Its undemanding awareness to recognize taht in case you call somebody a "nickname" that somebody will %. up on the term (the two stable and undesirable) and be conscious it to themselves. Cmon yall, an identical could properly be considered with homosexuals. the real term for homosexuality is purely that...that they are homosexuals. yet society took the term gay and queer and utilized it to them. the two one among them probably utilized in derogatory phrases yet now dont homosexuals desrbie themselves as "queer" or "gay"?...sufficient suggested.