I just dont understand why. I mean i love sex and we are both young so i dont see why he would be bored with me. It makes me frustrated because he does not make noise like he enjoys it and just not in to it . I want it to be more exciting and its like he just does it to please me
2007-05-19 15:55:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's a very serious issue behind this attitutude of his Tiffany and it needs to be addresed with a solid answer from him. It's not as simple as just asking him what's the problem. Obviously you've already done that. He's fearing something he's not telling you. This is not normal behavior two months into your marriage, unless you've been with him for a few years and there is constant fighting. Calmly sit down with him when he's in a better space to freely communicate. Tell him that you love him but that this has really been confusing for you, it's wearing you down and you deserve a strait answer. If he gets angry and reactive you'll know he has something big that he's hiding. Don't automaticly go to extreams. It could be that he's very embarrased about something and not sure how to tell you. What ever it is he needs to come strait out with it. You'll have to plan what your responce will be to what ever his answer is. He needs to honor this or you'll have to come up with plan B. Good luck!
2007-05-19 17:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lifecoach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most common answer to why spouses cheat is that something is wrong in the marriage and the affair is a bi-product of those problems, even when most other aspects of the relationship are working well. “The problem” is often one that the faithful spouse who would never think of cheating does not see or has elected to ignore for one reason or another. Although this appears to be the most common cause, there are others who engage in an affair or infidelity purely for the sex. They do not want their relationship to end, they simply seek the thrill that being with someone else brings. Either way, the pain, humiliation and betrayal are the same.
2016-05-21 21:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like its time for a talk with the lad.I suggest that you bring your concerns to him in a very neutral manner.My wife and I have had similar problems in the past.Unfortunately,his lack of interest in sex could mean many things.Does he have an exhausting job?Is he overly stressed?does he use bodybuilding supplements?All of these thing can create low testosterone levels in men.Some men are also turned off sexually when their not getting along with their partner.Consider all these things but remember,use your instinct.I've learned from my wife that If you truly feel that he sneaking behind your back with another woman,your probably right.Your the best one to make that call.
Hope things work out.
2007-05-19 16:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by nosh w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him? Communication is a good thing. Maybe something is bothering him. Say something like "Honey I noticed that when we are making love that you seem distant, is there something bothering you? Would you like to talk about it?" Or put it into your own version. Couldn't hurt. He will be able to tell you more than we'll be able to offer.
2007-05-19 16:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by dixi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so ask him whats wrong why does he act like he doesnt want to do it or dress up make it more interesting role play watch a porn movie together
2007-05-19 16:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is amiss. Perhaps you both need to compare your thoughts and feelings.........together.
2007-05-19 16:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You enjoy it your way and let him have his pleasure.
2007-05-20 01:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by Prem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the tiffany J that lives in Dallas?? If it is I could tell you why.....
2007-05-19 16:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
have him see the doctor
2007-05-19 16:05:44 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋