How do you help someone gain confidence within themselves?

Question

My sister has extremely low self-esteem. I know this because when you feel good about yourself, you have no need to bring others down. She'll say things like "I look better than you" when we get in fights and "you're ugly," but she really thinks those things about herself deep down inside. What can I do to get her feeling better about herself so she can stop verbally abusing me?

We've been seeing a counselor for about 4yrs, but she doesn't open up during it so there hasn't been any change. Any advice?

Answer 1

Ouch, tuffy. Glad to see you care so much for her that your willing to actual do something about it. But the fix is momumental.... and extremely hard to explain. Understand how extreme the situation is. That your both part of this generation, in these times, dealing with a whole lot of bs. Fact is in other to make the steps needed to make this work you need to redifine your purpose in life. You need to start your own big search for some truth in this world. Religion is an easy out, but the truth itself is hiding behind a lot of things and finding it and using it is your only really fix. Its about falsehoods and ingnorance, its about distrations and lost of purpose, these are all things you and your sister are going to have to get past. Realize that without some sort of direction, some sort of purpose, you can't do much to help each other. She needs to feel what society has tooken away, which is that we are more then our attraction, we are more then what people think of us, you both need to feel some sort of importance in your life. How you do this, how you find it, is up to you.... good luck.... and realize its an unfair situation that we live in were purpose isn't past from generation to generation just insecurities...... there so much more I can't explain and the deepth of the problems is enough to instill much rightieous rage in anyone, but peace is the finaly destination. Also its a continued path that you make by yourself with the help of those before you. Einstien said it best "If I touched the stars its because I stood on the shoulders of giants"........

Answer 2

I went interior the path of a similar difficulty with my chum, so I wrote her somewhat letter telling her how spectacular she is, her seems and character, it extremely helped! possibly attempt that, basically write down a good form of constructive issues approximately your chum telling her approximately her spectacular character and seems and it could get you far(;