Married women out there...how does it make you feel when you see that your husband has been lookin at porn?

Question

women in general, how does it make you feel?

Answer 1

Men like naked women, men like clothed women, brunettes, blonds, big and little boobs...men look at women all day, every day. When they don't look, they fantasize, when they don't fantasize, it's probably because you're sleeping with them at that exact moment.
That said, I think they're generally disgusting and it's heartwrenching to think that any man would desire a woman's flesh that wasn't his wife's.

Answer 2

Well, before I realized that it was an addiction I thought it was my fault that he looked. When I realized that why he looked at it had nothing to do with me then I was able to move on.
It makes you feel like crap.
I am very blessed that my husband finally is a recovering sex addict and is making a daily choice to remain pure in our marriage. He will not put himself in any circumstances that would cause him to trip up on purpose.
One thing to realize is that if he's looking at porn it's not your fault, and don't let him make you think it is. That is his to own. You can't make anyone do anything, we all have a choice.
If there is a problem in your marriage I would suggest seeing a marriage counselor to help you work things out.
If this is indeed an addiction, there will be nothing that you can do to make him stop this is something he will have to come to terms with and change within himself. Realizing that it is disrespectful to and that it hurts you will not matter if it is really an addiction. Don't beat yourself up, get some counseling for yourself if he opts not to go.
I honestly can say that if he had chosen to walk in his addiction to pornography that my children and I would have left over two years ago. I really do thank God for the change in my husband. He went to an "Every Mans Battle" conference a few years ago and has made every effort to overcome this addiction ever since. I wish you the same.

Answer 3

i assume majority of fellows watch it single or married, would not subject be counted. My husband will watch it w/ me or devoid of me frequently. it quite is now no longer a typical element nonetheless. whilst he watched it on my own, in the beginning up i replaced into quite tormented by making use of this however the greater effective our courting has matured I know that's no longer a threat to me. I tell him if he will watch w/o me (after i'm working, after i'm "no longer in the temper", now no longer feeling solid) that's ok, I merely dont want to comprehend approximately it. as quickly as we watch it together on social gathering, it does improve the intercourse once you're in the temper for that. i'm snug with myself, my physique, and that we've a familiar-fee intercourse life. Porn is merely for fantasy, and in case you will locate it like that, then it quite is exciting!

Answer 4

When we were first married I felt threatened by it.. like I wasn't enough for him or I was doing something wrong... but over the years I have realized that it's just a normal thing that people (not just guys, either) do.
My husband doesn't look at porn every day (or even every month) but when he does it's not hidden and sometimes it even adds to our sex life. There are times that we watch it together and times that we watch it alone. It's not a big deal to me anymore at all.
If you are asking because your significant other doesn;t like finding out that you have looked at it, don't expect her to come around any time soon... if at all... naturally, all women are different.

Answer 5

Well, at first I was mad. Then I thought of all of the other men who actually cheat and I counted my blessings.
I know it is me who he loves and just like women make comments about shirtless, tight jeaned workers, men like to look at women too.
I like to watch the occasional smut movie, so I guess I am no better.
It is just human nature and unless you turn it into a national incident, it will just fade away.
Don't make a big deal out of it and you will find that it really isn't a big deal.

I know I didn't answer that very well, but it's the best I can do.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

I feel glad that he got a few minutes to himself. Life is busy and we both work hard. Getting private time away from me and the kids (or him and the kids in my case) is a rare thing. I'm happy that he was relaxing and not fixing something or doing something work related. I'm happy that he can share his fantasies with me and I with him. I'm thrilled that I am the object of his affection. I'm also thrilled that he still has the ability to be his own person and make his own choices. He doesn't look at porn as often as he used to and our sex life has never suffered because of it. I'm happy that I accept who he is and he reciprocates. I'm glad that he is no longer the victim of catholic guilt when it comes to self pleasure. Now that we're on a level playing field as far as sexual openness, our sex life has blossomed from great to totally amazing. How does it make me feel? It makes me feel happy to share a life with a wonderful man. No judgment. Pure acceptance.

Answer 7

I would surely become horny & watch it with him, then.

Unfortunately, some of the above answerers must have husbands with porn addictions, which is another story.

Answer 8

i sometimes wake up and find porn mags under couches chairs in my living room when im cleanign and he denys that he put them there it makes me feel like a cow makes me feel very unsexy knowing that he has to look at them to get himself off instead of coming to me and letting me help him i know how you feel just burn the porn while hes out and when he brings new pron home and you find it burn it even if he gets angry if he leaves you then he really didnt love you to begin with he loved the porn more i burned all my husbands and eventually he stopped bringing them home

Answer 9

I know when I used to look at porn it made my wife feel like she wasn't good enough or she wasn't enough for me, that I felt that I had to look at other women. She's had self-esteem issues even before we got married, and when I did that, it just brought down her self-esteem even more.

I have since quit looking at that garbage, with alot of help from God, he's given me the strength to avoid the temptation to look at it, and has shown me how damaging it is to look at that junk, and the damage that it caused to my marriage by my looking at it.

I'm so thankful that God has delivered me from my addiction to sex & porn.

Answer 10

Don't bug me as long as I am getting enough. Gals have to realize that men are very visual creatures plus like to just get off for the sake of getting off and not because it is an expression of "love". As long as he is just looking at naked bodies of women and not young girls (which would be just wrong) I am A-ok with it.