Anyone else out there committed to their spouses...?

Question

Anyone else out there trying to not become another statistic? My husband and I have been through alot in our 12 years of marriage. He's come out of an addiction, and I am recovering from anger issues. We are going to renew our vows this summer as a way of saying we love eachother, and will be committed to eachother until the day the Lord takes us home, still. I just wanted to know how many other married couples out there are going to choose to love and stay together no matter what and beat becoming just another statistic. Anyone have a great encouraging story to share about enduring and choosing to love eachother through it all?

Answer 1

have been married 10 years and together 12 we now have 2 children and one on the way, the road has been really really hard some of the bumps have been
addiction
adultery
lies
abuse
financial
anger
you name it we have been in it and some trials we are still dealing with from time to time
If I had listened to everyone else in my life then we would be divorced as well
We have stood firm and stayed together, things are good for a while and then we can run into something again. Marriage is hard, But with God, love, desire and commitment (to all those things) I believe we can make it through anything
If God is for you then who can be against you!!!!
Stand firm and build that foundation on a rock and you guys will never fall.
I am glad to hear of all these stories, cause sometimes it feels like you stand alone
thanks for asking such a great question
and congrats on the vow renewal

Answer 2

After 12 years of marriage we have suffered the loss of a child, financial difficulties, living apart for almost a year due to work, and an affair. Things have not been easy at all, but one thing never changes...and that is the fact that we love each other. In fact after making it through each of these "detours or bumps in the road" our marriage has gotten stronger and better than I ever thought a marriage could be. I only hope we have had to deal with most of our hard times and we have plenty of good times ahead. But if we don't ...we will get through it one way or another. I cannot see how so many people find it so easy to walk away from marriage. If you are willing to accept the proposal, and walk down that aisle...you should be willing to fight to save your marriage. Nobody EVER told you it would be easy. god, you just made me realize how very much I love and need my hubby....Thanks for the reminder...let me go wrap my arms around him!!! And congrats on your marriage as well. My hubby and I renewed our vows a few months ago, and the feeling of saying your vows and knowing your spouse is saying them...and you both know what it is all about at this point....is great!!! You know that even after all the "hard times", you both still want to be with each other until the final day, and THAT my dear is a wonderful feeling. The vows we wrote for our renewal far outweigh the ones when we got married, for they come from experience and true, deep love. Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

When I got married I didn't even consider divorce as an option. Divorce is not an option for me. I think too many people go into marriage these days with the idea that, "Well, if it doesn't work out I'll just get a divorce." Which is the wrong attitude. What if divorce was not an option? Then people would just have to stick it out and work things out. People are too quick to throw in the towel and are not willing to work at their marriages. I am totally committed to my husband and would not even consider divorce or adultery and he feels the same way. When we have a problem we work it out. We've been through some hard times but getting through them and coming out the other side has made our marriage even stronger. It is also very helpful if both partners treat each other the way the Bible says we should treat each other. Women are to submit to their husband's authority and men are suppose to love their wives as Jesus loved the church and Jesus died for the church. If husbands and wives treated each other the way my husband and I treat each other; the way the Bible says we should treat each other; there would be no need for divorce.

Answer 4

No marriage is PERFECT, however when two
people are married to each other, communication,
love, support, and COMMITTMENT, towards each
other are the key players in keeping the marriage
solid. I and my wife have been married for over
20yrs and still building a greater and stronger
foundation around our marriage so that nothing or
no-one will interrupt it, and since we are respon-
sible people and committed to each other our
marriage will last and become a statistic of
longetivity, as we will immulate my parents as they
were married 55yrs until one passed away before
the other. So if more people would really and
truly committ to each other then nothing or no-one
can destroy the foundation they have between
each other, and what a better way to go than to be
with the one you love, when it's time.

Answer 5

I know exactly what you are gong through. Me and my husband have been together for 8 years and unfortunatly something came up from his past and now he is in prison for a while. It is hard being sepparated but we are more commited than ever that when we get back together we are gong to be remarried and start new and be on the right path with god. If you really love someone you can over come anything. So good luck to you and know Your not alone.

Answer 6

Been together 15 yrs. and 2 children. We have endured the ultimate if u ask me, cheating. It has been 5 months and we are doing well. My husband endured me being a real B and drinking to much for about one yr. During that year he was talking to another woman and probally more, but who can blame him. ALot of people are out to blame the cheater, but i had to step back and look at myself. I had to ask the question would i cheat on me and my attitude??? the answer always comes up yes. Long story short, marriage takes alot of work. In my opinion worth the work. Good for you working on your anger situation, I have done alot of work myself. Today, I am a much happier person and realize we all have faults.

Answer 7

17 years and counting for us. We've been through a lot too, and I think I love my man more now than I did 17 years ago. The kids came along after 10 years of marriage, and they made us even more committed and bonded. I would hate to have to go out and date in the world today. It's too much stress.

Answer 8

been through a lot in 10 years of marriage thru, but our commitment by His Grace has always been for better for worse. Even though the road has been rocky, my wife and I know that with God as our focus we will male it.
I am so happy that you are going to renew your vows and I pray that the Almighty will keep your marriage intact till He calls you to be with Him.

Answer 9

i dont know how encouraging my story is... but i can at least give it a shot...

we havent been married long, but in the time we have been married he has been to iraq 3 times

its rough and tough, but if i didnt love him as much as i do, i wouldnt stay

im young and sometimes very naive, but i know when i have a good thing, and i know that i will fight as hard as i can to keep it

i think the divorce rate is so because people have become very self centered, its all about the gimmies and rarely the gives

not to say all divorcees are self centered

good luck to the two of you and i wish you the best

Answer 10

I wish you and your partner (husband) all the best of luck.. I am divorced and would have stayed on with the marraige but never had the choice as you two are working it out... There is no perfect marraige but I have to applaud you both for your accomplishments...I never cheated on my spouse nor would I do it with any one else I met but there is alot more to a family and a relationship than that but sounds like you guys are on the right track..Good luck to the two of you and best wishes