i had sex with my boyfriend and i dont want to anymore, but when ever he asks me and i say no he gets mad and says "well the hardest part is done, why wont you. we have done this before!" how can i stop this?!
2007-05-19 14:51:01 · 23 answers · asked by Marie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i really really love him, and i want him to be happy. and he was my first, but i dont wanna end up pregnant and deal with my parent hating me.
2007-05-19 15:09:26 · update #1
If you don't want to have sex that is your choice. Just don't expect your boy friend to stay with you. You are not the first woman to feel this way and certainly not the last. Do understand his frustration wanting sex with his girl friend and get a constant refusal. Just tell your boyfriend you want him as a friend and free him to find sex else where. It is really not a problem here. You feel how you feel and that is that. Anger is frustration under pressure. Your guy if feeling pressure in more that one way if you get my drift. He wants what he wants and fears he won't get it again and given how you feel he won't have it again.
I personally would not have gotten angry at you. I simply would have worked with you to get to the bottom of the issue to figure out where the relationship was going.
I do wonder is has happened to you before?
2007-05-19 15:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help to understand why you don't want to have sex anymore, but even THAT doesn't matter. You don't want to, and that's it. On the one hand, he is asking a fair question: "Why won't you?" It might be easier if you explained it to him. Also, keep in mind that, no matter what your explanation, he will probably still want to have sex with you. Unfortunately, there's no middle ground or room for comprise on this one. Unless he's willing to give up sex, or you're willing to have it again, the relationship may be over. It doesn't mean that either of you are wrong, just that there's no way for both of you to be happy.
2007-05-19 14:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him if he cant resprct you anymore than that he doesnt deserve you theres far too many guys in the world that will respect you enough to wait until your ready to have sex instead of getting mad when you wont it sounds like you didnt want to have sex with him in the first place,lol!
2007-05-19 15:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by shanevswife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's differ for everyone since everyone's body is different butit really doesn't hurt that bad the first time. It's not the same feeling but it's the same concept as getting your ears pierced it hurts really bad for a second and then you're fine. :)
2016-05-21 21:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear DSW,
If you don't want sex, DO NOT HAVE IT.
Just a WORD to the WISE: The young man you are seeing is not someone you want to spend your sexual favours on. He is a selfish, immature, jerk. He is with you for the sex, not because of how he feels about you, but because of how he feels about himself and what he wants. This is not someone you want to waste any time with.
Do yourself a favour... keep sex for a truly committed relationship... and that means marriage, not a passing fancy. You are worth courting and winning... not just screwing.
Good luck.
2007-05-19 15:08:37 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he care about you? If he does, he should understand you and respect your opinion and not force you to do something you don't want to do. If you don't want to do it, don't do it no matter what! Your opinion counts, and you might regret it in the future if you give in to him. Sit down, and have a talk with him. Tell him that you just don't want to do it, and it doesn't even matter if there's a reason or not. If he still tries to force you, you might want to consider your relationship with him!
2007-05-19 15:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to him that you don't want sex anymore and tell him why. You only have to do what you feel comfortable with. Don't let him pressure you or make you feel guilty, this is your decision.
2007-05-19 14:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by pinkcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing him because he is a jack@$$. If you said you dont want to he shouldn't pressure you. If he does he doesn't really care for you. Never do anything you dont want to. Good luck.
2007-05-19 14:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Dawn mom of 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dump him. He doesn't love you if he's only after the pleasure of having sex. After that, continue your life without him.
2007-05-19 14:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by swiss_june 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok. dump his a s s. if a guy doest listen to you and doesnt care what you think and only wants 2 have sex. psshtt say bye bye. this guys only wants sex. you could do much much much better.
2007-05-19 15:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by ♥DeLiCiOuS♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋