I haave lost my baby when he was only 19 weeks and im still cry at night sone times please help me?

Answer 1

This is very natural, and smart aleck answers here are not appropriate. No matter how young, you will always grieve for your precious child. But, the good news is that the grief becomes tolerable after a while.

I read something recently that was beautiful about this, and it was that the grief never goes away but that it becomes incorporated into you, into who you are.

If you think counseling will help, or maybe a grief group, try either one. You might find a grief group through a church or YWCA or a hospital.

Good luck. I care.

Answer 2

I saw you had another question on here about when to try again. If you are still crying at night and upset then trying again is out of the question. You cant replace the child lost and doing so might even end up hurting you more. You need to take time to deal with your loss, go to grief counseling, talk to your doctor about maybe being depressed and seeing if there is any solutions that he can think of to help you get past this. I am a mother of 2 and cant even begin to imagine what you are going through and I am so sorry that this happened to you. Get help, talk it through to someone and keep talking when you feel down until you finally feel better. You will always miss this child and you will never forget it, but one day you will be able to move on and be happy that you waited til you were ready.

Answer 3

I don't know if you mean you m/c at 19 wks or had a 19 wk old baby who passed away. If it is a m/c, treat it as a death and give yourself time to grieve. I think so many people act like somehow it's not supposed to be a big deal, but it is. To you that was your baby who you already loved and were so excited about. If you lost a 19 wk old baby, I would think that would take a very long time to stop crying and feeling bad. In either case, find someone to talk to like a support group or a professional counselor. Don't try to get PG again right away. Give your body and emotions time to recover.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's so unfair that some women find it so easy to have children and then others experience terrible tragedies as you have. Grieving for your baby will take time, especially seeing as how you were so far along. You need to acknowledge your baby as a real person even if you didn't spend time with your baby outside the womb. He was still a big part of you. Some people find naming your baby helps with the grieving process. It's normal for you to be crying because of your loss. It's important to allow yourself to do that. Every time you cry, you'll get further through the grieving process and you'll find, in time, your pain will begin to ease. Immerse yourself with understanding family and friends and spend time talking about how you're feeling with them. If you still find life a little too hard to cope with, go and see a counsellor who will give you some good tools to use to help you cope. Best of luck and once again, I'm truly sorry.

Answer 5

I'm so sorry for your loss
I'm afraid only time will help,you will never forget but in time you will keep the memory of your baby in a special part of your heart.You will be able to think of him without to much grief as time goes by. Talking about him will help,sometimes people don't know what to say to you so they don't mention your loss,encourage family and friends to talk about the joy you had with your baby. Plant a tree or make a garden in memory of your little boy,talk to him like he is still there.Hope you feel better soon
god speed

Answer 6

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't imagine the pain you're in. There are many options you can use to try and find some help to cope with your grief. You could contact a local hospital and see if they offer counseling; speak to your doctor to get a referral to a counselor; search for a local group for grieving parents; or join a group online. Here's a link to a list of various online support groups at Babycenter.com for grieving parents that focuses on specific reasons for loss: http://www.babycenter.com/boards/bcusgrief

All the best to you.

Answer 7

I can't help you. No one but you can. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I have dealt with several couples who have lost their children. The best method from their mouths anyway is to find something to keep you busy and something that gives you a reason to live. There are people that love you I'm sure and that need you and for them you must go on, you must find the strength inside you, and use this as a way to start your life with a new vision. Maybe use your loss to help others. I am so sorry for you, and I hope that the days ahead become softened and bearable.

Answer 8

It's ok to cry, it's even healthy it's part of the grieving process. There are support groups you can join yahoo or google "pregnancy or baby loss in (your state here) support group" If you can't find one that way call some local churches they should be able to help you.

Answer 9

You need professional help. My sister lost her baby and she finally went for help. She joined a group and went to see a therapist. She was depressed and could not seem to come out of it. He gave her some medication and she is doing great now. She is her old self and looking forward to having another baby in the future. PLEASE,PLEASE get some help.

Answer 10

Its only natural to cry theres no way you will ever forget about what heppened you will just learn to cope with it better. I myself had my ex gf get into a car accident and she lost my son at nine months and it changed my life, you will learn to deal with it but it will be hard just take your time and go day by day thats the only thing you can do, nobody will excpect you to do anymore than that.