im 30 weeks pregnant.. and i still can't decide touse my last name or my boyfriends... how do i decide??

Question

we've been dating for a year but we're not getting married... the baby is going to live with me.. but hes going to be there as much as he can.. i still can't decide who's last name the baby should have and i dont like the idea of hyphen's. what do i do?

Answer 1

Your name - without a doubt.

Answer 2

your name

Answer 3

Either have the baby's last name as the Dad's (because that's the way it should be for the father so that the child can carry on his name whether you are married or not) or for example have the first name as the first name, your last name as his middle name and his dad's last name and the last name.

ex: Justin (first name) Monroe (your last name) Smith (father's last name) This way he has the best of both worlds and you don't have to use a hyphen. Good luck!

Answer 4

Hey Girl,
I was pregnant with twins and was not married . I was in love but uneasy about the whole thing . my boyfriend had asked me to marry him two months before i found out but i wasn't so sure. I did not want them to have my last name because my family name had gone down the drain. I gave them his last name because no matter what he will always be there daddy . Even if we didn't get married they would always know something about there father. Now here it is four years later and we are still going strong married and more in love than ever before. children change the world and our lives forever. I wouldn't trade mine for the world . hope everything works out for the best.
Tiffany

Answer 5

Use your name. You can always use your boyfriend's name as a middle name if you want, but since the child will live with you and you don't plan on marrying there's no reason why the baby shouldn't have the same last name as you.

Answer 6

Listing him as the father on the birth certificate is the most important thing you can do, regardless of name decision. This will protect you and the baby if the need arises to take him to court for support. Using his last name will go a long way in that fight as well, but is not necessary (I would---Did, actually). I know you probably think you will never have to do that, but don't bet on it. Start protecting yourself and your baby now.

Answer 7

I would use my own last name if I were you. As someone said earlier, it will be easier to prove the child is yours (especially for school registration and such in the future). Make sure you put his name on the Birth Certificate and that he signs it. Different states have different laws; depending on where you live, you may not be able to use his anyway, since you aren't married.

Answer 8

I had the same problem but I did'nt care about hyphenating the name I used his last name as a middle name and used my last name as the last name

Answer 9

if you're not married and not planning on getting married; the child should without no doubt have your last name. you don't want to go around proving that that's your biological son or daughter just because it has a different last name from yours [the baby daddy last name] so to keep it simple; put your last name down so you dont have to prove to anyone that that's your child.

Answer 10

Use your last name. It will be easier that way, in case when the child gets older and wants your last name. My husband has been there. If you give the child boyfriends last name and change your mind later or the child does you have to get permission from the father and it has to be notarized of course, and if he refuses the name change then you have to have a court date set, miss work, look at your loser ex, undue stress on you and child and possibly new partner or husband.

Answer 11

i would definitely use your last name, for many reasons, 1 being that everywhere you take the baby you won't have to prove your the mother 2 he really has not made a commitment to you and he can't take the baby away from you if he decided to leave 3 at least your child and you will share the last name,