I need a woman's perspective!?

Question

I'm a boy, she's a girl, we're both in eight grade. She's 13 I’m 14. I have liked her for awhile but i never told her. I asked her friend who is my friend for her screen name a month ago too. I have been talking to her and trying to get to know her more. I only talk to her online and we barely talk in person. Almost the whole school went to six flags great adventure yesterday and I was hanging out with me group. I passed her a few times at the park and said hi. She was with her group. Eventually, my group wanted to go on a few rides that I didn’t want to. I walked around alone for awhile. I saw different groups from my school and eventually found her group and talked to my/her friend. She let me tag along for a little. I kept finding the group and leaving them to go on different rides. When I got home, I went online and talked to my friends.My friend that knows this girl I like talked to me and I said I didn’t think the park was that amazing. She thought she knew why. She thought I

didn’t like the park because the girl I like didn’t really talk to me that much (I didn’t talk to her that much either). That wasn’t the reason, but I wanted to know how she knew I liked her without even asking me. I hadn’t told anyone before. She told me she knew because of the way I looked at her, how I smiled at her, how I always laughed a little extra her jokes, and how I happened to be around her a lot. I didn’t know I made it that obvious. She told me that she told the girl I liked what she thought and the girl said that she hadn’t noticed until my friend told her. My friend told her awhile ago. Somehow all of her friends knew but her. She told my friend that it’s kind of cool. My friend told me that she thinks I’m nice and funny. My friend asked me what I thought of her and I said she’s nice, funny, and pretty. I’m assuming she told the girl I like. The question is:

There is an 8th grade dinner dance on the 31st and her birthday is on the 30th. Do you think she likes me? And if she does, should I ask her to the dinner dance (maybe on her birthday) and/or get her something for her birthday? Sorry for the long question!

Answer 1

Absolutely, go and ask her, now, if she'd go out with you, and spend some of her birthday time with you. From her reaction and comments, you'll know what to say and do next. Try to relax and 'be yourself'. Try to communicate with more with her directly and less through mutual friends, if you can.
Best wishes.

Answer 2

Scott,
Honestly you sound like a great fella. At this age both of you need to be building friendships with members of the opposite sex. Far too few take the time to learn how to be buddies. It's an incredible treasure! I ended up marrying my best friend.

Ask her to go to the dinner . . .because you have fun and like to be around her. Feel free to get her a birthday card and if you like, a gift card to itunes or the local teen hangout place. Here the teens like to go to Sonic, McDonald's, Taco Bell or Pizza Hut. Get what you can afford. It's the thought!

Do NOT and article of clothing, jewelry, or the conventional flowers, candy . . . . .that puts you in "dating" mode and then if it's not reciprocated you feel rejected. Start slow! Become good friends.

You won't be sorry. Good luck!

Answer 3

There are two things that you need to do here.

First, simply things. Talk to her directly. She's not going to bite.

Second, and this one is very, very important. Gentlemen know what the can and can't talk about with regards to their ladies. You're young, yes, and you'll learn. But trust me on this one, you don't go home and blab about it. As I said, you're young, and you made what might be a mistake, but that's the best way to learn.

Now, though, the best thing that you can do to help you to learn more is to talk with your parents. Yes, your parents, who have both been through all of this and more.

Good luck. Remember that the key is to respect everyone, including the girls.

Answer 4

Well first of all ask her to the dance as soon as possible, someone else may if you don't. Then ask her what color dress she will be wearing so you two will match up also before the dance ask her out for a movie or soda or pizza and it be your treat and tell her HAPPY BIRTHDAY she will be suprised you cared enough to take her out. Also have just 1 nice pretty flower to give her to wear on her dress. You will blow her away

Answer 5

Ask her to the dance and even if she doesn't go with you, still give her something b/c that is what make girls notice you and think you're really sweet. You sound really sweet and I think she likes you because who wouldn't (your age)

Answer 6

Ask her to the dinner dance and get her something, like flowers, for her birthday.

Answer 7

Get her a nice gift and yes ask her to the dance.Good Luck

Answer 8

I am your age and I am in a situation kind of like yours...my adivce to you is to wait, and get to know her really well and then if you really like her, she will probbley end up really likeing you eventully. And to get her to like you is to just be the sweetest guy you can be and don't underestimate her and don't obbsess over her.

Answer 9

Ask her, if you are afraid (I think you are shy) then send her an e-mail asking to go with you. Don't be afraid, I think she likes you too. Do it NOW! Good luck!

Answer 10

First of all, you all are to young to be dating. BUT, just ask her, and men need to stop being so silly. You can't worry about "WHAT IF" you won't know until you ask her. It sounds like she likes you.