Im 17 and he's 20. Its not my first time being pregnate...but its my first time going this far. Im 4 months. Im scared i wont be a good mother. This baby means more to me than anything... I want to be the best for her. What can i do to make things easier/more comfortable for the baby and i?.
2007-05-19 13:54:15 · 28 answers · asked by Sarahcakes 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Im 17 and he's 20. Its not my first time being pregnate...(before you all assume i was raped @ 13 and i was against abortion.... i lost the child due to an ex of mine..(whos in jail now Thank God)but its my first time going this far. Im 4 months. Im scared i wont be a good mother. This baby means more to me than anything... I want to be the best for her. What can i do to make things easier/more comfortable for the baby and i?.
2007-05-20 07:12:57 · update #1
hey! im glad i found u, listen life is going to be hard and thats all there is to it. i mean even the most exp mother out there will have a hard time with their baby. u have to get thru this and i know im not a mother, and i havent had a kid. but i know if u know that in your heart u will be a good mother u probably will be. i wish u the best i really do, and i hope he takes good care of u because u and the baby are his responsiblity. Life will reward u for your hard work and effort as u walk thru life being a mom. trust me i know on mothers day when i talk to mine. lol. but uhh yeah thats all i got for now. ill be praying for u. bye.
2007-05-19 14:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by the sponge 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Stay commited. Always put her first. Take care of your health and develop better habits. Learn to have a kind and honest attitude. Read about everything. Read to your baby even now. Work. Whether at home or on the job teach your child that work is a good thing. Smile alot. Cry when you need to. Learn to cook some really special things that will become her favorites. Help her develop the ability to imagine. Play, laugh, and be sure to tell her she can do and be anything that she wants to be. Congratulations.
2007-05-19 14:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im going to say something you don't want to hear, but you should give this baby to a home with two parents so the child has a good start in life. There is no way you can take care of a child adequately because you are still a child. I am sorry - its the politically incorrect answer but children are not trophies, nor are they toys or feel-good items you make when you are bored, or upset or need extra love. Why are you getting pregnant when you are only 17? There is something here that needs more examination - you need to see a counselor and find out more about your motivation and go there -- fix yourself before you try and make another human being. You don't want to be a blight on the system - you don't want to be a welfare mother and your child deserves two parents - every child does. For you to selfishly think you can provide the best start for this child is just further example of immature thinking.
Okay everyone now yell at me - but someone had to have the balls to say this
2007-05-19 13:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kim G 1 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Im not going to say you whether or not you should give this baby up for adoption or keep it. This is your decision. Just realize that by having a baby...you are going to have to act older and be more mature than other 17 year olds. That is what you are giving up by having this baby, because it needs a mature, responsible adult....and normally 17 yearolds havent reached that point yet. This means no drinking and hardcore partying...and try to create a stable environment for this child.
2007-05-19 14:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by anabanana_212 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no manual to being a good mother. If this guy is 20 and you are 17 then that means that you are a stupid girl. If the guy bails, don't take it out on the child. The only thing that will help you, is if you follow your instincts and your gut to what maybe good or bad for your child.
2007-05-19 14:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by D J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry, but what the hel* were you thinking? Getting abortions before...sorry. It's not my place to yell at you.
But ya, take a parenting course. And eat healthy (lots of veggies and grains). Try to not be around smoking people. Don't be in a situation where it will endanger you or the baby. Get weekly or monthly check ups. And always have a cellphone ready. Oh ya, read books about taking care of babies and all that.
Well, good luck!
2007-05-19 14:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just stay calm for the baby. Everything you feel, your baby feels. You will be a good mommy. No baby comes with a manual so all you have to do is follow your instincts. Baby will tell you when he/she is hungry, you will know when to change diaper, when babies skin does not look right under the diaper and how baby likes to be held or if baby likes to be rocked or sang to.
To be a good mommy is to know what your child likes, how to provide it for baby and how to remain calm. Don't worry, it will all come to you through the love you feel for your child!
The very best of luck to you and relax and enjoy your pregnancy. If you worry too much you will miss all the good parts!
2007-05-19 13:59:56 · answer #7 · answered by phxmilitarymom 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Provide a stable home environment with a married mother and father. Have enough income to monetarily support your child with all his/her needs. Take a parenting course. Deal with any emotional issues or instability NOW, before the baby comes.
2007-05-19 13:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
Give it up for adoption and ask your ob/gyn to provide some effective birth control. It's not your first time being pregnant? Are you serious? You have a lot to learn and a lot of growing to do before you're ready to be anyone's mother.
2007-05-19 14:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Its not going to be easy at your age, Go to the library get books!!! read up and try to prepare yourself as much as you can!
Find friends with babies and watch and learn!
Stay positive that you want to be a good mom and you can!
2007-05-19 13:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋