My fella (?) who I was engaged to for 5 mos. til I lost the ring, sold his home & bought one 900 mi. from here. His daughter & her husb; son & his wife & his only grandchild, 5 yr. old boy live there. He says he has decided he wants to be w/his family. He is 66 & lost his wife 2-1/2 yrs. ago to cancer. They had been married 39 yrs.& I don't think very happily. She was an alcholic & allowed him to do whatever he wanted w/o complaint. He is used to having things his way. He wanted to just be friends, (w/benefits) after I lost ring & later we had an unrelated fight, where I blew-up. He was very upset w/me about that. Said he can't handle hostility. He responds to my "I luv U", in kind, & says he wants me to come visit & doesn't no what future w/hold for us. Say's he hopes things w/work out for us. His kids been here helping him pack for past 4 days, he's called me once w/brief conv. He's leaving tomorrow. What are your thoughts on this?
2007-05-19 13:39:31 · 4 answers · asked by slippery slope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just give it some time. He's made a huge decision for himself and needs to adjust to that. And you need to decide whether or not you want to move 900 miles away if he does want you to come join him.
2007-05-19 13:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The biggest and most important thing here is what do you want? If you dont want this guy in your life then tell him so and dont lead him on, but if you want him then whats the problem. If there is the slightest bit of doubt here, end it now. I really dont see any common ground here for the both of you to build a relationship on. In fact I get the feeling that you two in any kind of relationship would be a disaster. Please dont take this part the wrong way but I think that at hi age , hes desperate and since you first showed a slight interest hes jumping into this head first and without really thinking about it. A disasterousrelationship is worse than no relationship at all. Good luck
2007-05-19 21:02:01 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has made a huge decision that does not include you.
If you are willing to give up everything and all of your family and friends to go, then you may have a chance, but HE made that decision WITHOUT you, so I wouldn't be too keen on a relationship with him.
2007-05-19 20:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gone sweetheart!
2007-05-19 20:59:25 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋