I don't know how to describe myself but i will try...i love people very much...my friends and people that i like,or a guy ...i really don't know i love people so much and want them to be happy and i hurt myself all the time because i cry and i am sad about everyone...i want to change and be a different person because i am starting to feel very depressed by other peoples problems....
2007-05-19 13:38:07 · 17 answers · asked by ? 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Isolate yourself and live like a hermit leaving no personal attachment to anything?
2007-05-19 13:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by self.inflammatory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take some time out from your worries and do a few things for yourself. Take a week or so and just concentrate on making yourself feel happy and content. so that you can come back with a new perspective on things. What may help is write down all the things that are troubling you. Try to put them in order from "most worried about" to "least worried about". Take the piece of paper and put it in a drawer for 1 week. Once the paper is inside the drawer you need to consciously tell yourself "that's next weeks worries - this is my getting stronger week" and put the thoughts aside. If they keep coming back into your mind push them out. During the week do, think about and say the things that make you happy. At the end of the week open the drawer and read the list again. I'm convinced you'll feel better and more equipped to deal with everything on that list.
2007-05-19 14:15:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, your a sweet heart. I use to be the same way, i use to cry about other peoples issues, until i started to notice nobody cared for me the way i did for them and that hurt even more. Try and change before you go through that because it is not fun. Still love people just try not to put yourself out there so much. Make sure you come first and you are happy before trying to help others with their problems. I think what you do is amazing and we need more people in this world like you, but its great until you start to hurt. Remember you are first. good luck kiddo!
2007-05-19 13:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by *smiLe :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol @ answers above me..
There's no shame in loving someone, but there is a difference between "loving" someone and being used by them as well. You are probably the kind of person who goes out of their way for a friend or tries really hard to not mess up and upset the other person. Right? It's not love that you're dealing with.. it's more of an emotional attatchment towards that person. Remember don't go loving other's if you can't love yourself first.
2007-05-19 13:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by augustina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stop being compassionate, that is a good quality. Try to remember that other people's problems are not your problems. Sometimes, doing some type of volunteer work helps, you feel as if you can actually do something about someone's problems. Check with your local hospital, or a homeless shelter, or even a grade school. Good luck!
2007-05-19 13:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well I'm 13 and want to be a psychologist well its a good thing that u love people but if its harming your health and well being u should take a brake and give yourself a treat for being so nice u might want to tell these people how u feel if u feel that might help
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2007-05-19 13:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, this type of behavior is a form of "control behavior." You have this idea that you know what is best for people, and only if they listened to you. . . Maybe you do know what is best for them, but that is hardly the point. You can only live YOUR life, not everyone else's, and for better or worse, we can have influence over the world, but what actually happens is often beyond our control. We have to stop worrying what people do and just make sure WE do the best we can, each of us individually. Once I learned to let the world be, I made myself open to the flow of life. I do the best I can and leave the rest to some higher power. Learn to pray.
2007-05-19 13:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a really good person. If you really want to stop loving people, look at the persons faults too much. That's what I do to get over a girl I like or friends who aren't so friendly. I'm a lot like you. I get too attached to other people. You just have to focus on these peoples faults. Sooner than later, you won't like that person as much.
2007-05-19 13:46:04 · answer #8 · answered by chubs353 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take care of your needs first. Also you might need to seek some professional help if you are starting to feel really depressed. Let go of other peoples problems, they have to find ways to deal with their issues, that is not your problem to fix it for them. Take care of yourself. It's ok to be caring but you need to set some boundaries. You are going to worry yourself sick with other peoples problems, you are an important person too. Let go of other peoples problems because they are just that other peoples problems.
2007-05-19 13:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it, like quitting smoking, cold turkey, if you want to change so much just do it, it is just a matter of inaction on your part so far, I had to quit caring too much about other peoples problems; it usually backfires in my face. It doesn't pay to be nice to people, few people I ever helped ever even said thanks, that erks me more than anything when a person doesn't even say thanks for saving their life, or saving them hundreds if not thousands of dollars! Most people are ingrates that don't deserve your empathy, get a life of your own, let others worry about themselves!
2007-05-19 13:53:37 · answer #10 · answered by samhillesq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋