Ive been having an online affair with a married man for 5months.Ive fallen head over heels in love with him, and he says he feels the same.We are going to be meeting soon.We've agreed to meet up as friends, but i want more and i know he does too.But i don't know if i should take it further than just friends when we meet for real.
2007-05-19 13:36:17 · 18 answers · asked by princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be very very careful here. Anyone can be anyone on here an words are cheap when it comes to a married man. Meet him in a public place to start with if youreseriously going thru with this and hopefully you didnt give out your home address and phone number. There are way too many wierdos out here andon here to take a chance without really knowing him first. I advise people doing this to have a friend near by just in case this turns out all wrong. Its safer to err on the side of caution then to become a statistic in the news. I really cant see what any female would see in a marrie man but its your life. This is bound to turn out bad for you and leave you heartbroken. Any married man committing adultery is a total idiot doing this to his wife and possible family. If this guy can do this to his wife then what is he capable of doing to you? You dont have to take my advise but please just be careful here.
2007-05-19 13:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will probably hate this response but I felt it needed to be said. I am coming from the Wife's side. Both you and the husband are being very selfish and stupid.
Marriage is not only a legal binding contract but a very emotional bond between two people through the good times and the bad. If you want to do the right think, encourage that he go talk with is his wife about why he is seeking other attention. Being on-line "Friends" is cool, but if your conversations include talk that should only be shared between romantically involved individuals.. you have crossed the line.
I think you should find an unattached man and not be part of a messy situation between a married couple.
I truly hope you take my advice.
Hearts are a precious thing and a broken one is really difficult to live with.
Think of the wife.. and the family that will be effected.
2007-05-19 14:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by D V 2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding ? Just turn the other way ! WHY would you want to get involved with a married man ? Of course the guy sweet talked his way into your heart because he's going to get some from you while he gets some from his wife too. Can't you see that he's playing with you ? He's not sincere, for him the online thing is just a game and it should be for you too because unless it's an official online site you're bound to meet horrible married men who are looking for a good time. If you really want to meet people go to the right sites.
2007-05-19 14:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by dd 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully when you meet him, he's not the same man as you know on line.
Stay away from married men...especially ones that chat on line.
Who knows if you're not the only one he's getting his rocks off with on line? He might be romancing others - you'll never know. AND...if he does leave his wife, who's to say that he won't chat up some other lonely net lady looking for love (in all the wrong places).
Do yourself a favor - and get over this guy, turn off your computer and meet a nice guy at your local gym/coffee shop/bar/grocery store etc.....
2007-05-19 13:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by thesoapgoatsoapshop 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bad move. Horrible move! Immature move. A married man. Listen, I'm not going to be like the tons of others that will be calling you a home wrecker. I just want to give you one more option. One that will ensure that your self esteem will remain intact. e-mail him and tell him to postpone the meeting till after his divorce. This will give you the opportunity to "not be" the @$#&*! that broke up the marriage. If he refuses, then you know where you really stand in this dysfunctional relationship. I'm just giving you an option here. But, it's a good idea sweety!
2007-05-19 13:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're joking, right?
Getting involved with a married man, even when you're thrown together by work or proximity and it's a real temptation, is a no-no. Going out of your way to get involved with a married man you've never even met in person is insane.
Find a man of your own.
2007-05-19 13:41:45 · answer #6 · answered by sparticle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So u know he's married and u don't mind? If u get together, will u ever be able to trust him? So what will happen if he only wants sex? If he doesn't want to leave his wife? And last of all, what if the same thing happens to you one day when your married, your husband chats with other women on the internet? I don't mean to jinx you, you've already done that yourself.
2007-05-19 14:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by snezana9 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can you fall in love with someone in 5 months that you haven't even met yet?? Sounds like maybe your infactuated with him or else he's a smooth talker. Becareful your probably just filling his lonely hours. Maybe you should wait until he gets a divorce before you take it further, otherwise you might regret it.Good Luck in whatever decision you make!!
2007-05-19 16:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by 24Special 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're sad and pathetic. In love with someone who have never met. How stupid is that? Maybe he will carve you up and put you in a plastic bag. I am going to pay attention to the news. Maybe I will hear another story about how some lonely woman got butchered by an online boyfriend. How stupid!
2007-05-19 13:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are truly meeting AS FRIENDS, tell him to bring his wife and you can meet her too.
Otherwise he is hiding it and so are you and that is just wrong.
Meeting him could be a dissapointment. He may be "the person that you want him to be on the computer and a jerk in person.
2007-05-19 13:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋