At first we were going to work things out and he made it seem like things were going to be perfect, but now i found out about another girl and he says things aren't going to work and he wants to date other people. BUT he says we can try and make it work after the baby is born.... I don't know how to deal with this at all!!
2007-05-19 13:24:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Gimme his address... I'm gonna kick 'im in da nads...
My fiance and I just found out we are expecting 2 months ago, and it burns me up inside to hear of someone acting like that.
Don't put his name on the birth cert. and don't give him any rights. If he wants to see his child, he'll have to sue for paternity, and start paying child support...
Makes me so angry!!!
2007-05-19 13:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by Rob S 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Wow, that sounds almost too familiar. I was with my boyfriend for 9 years and we decided to have a baby. I became pregnant, things changed instantly, not bad at first but when i was 8 months pregnant he decided we needed a break! Im ready to burst stressed out depressed and hes going through some sort of mid life crisis (not to mention we were only 25 and 27) I had my entire family by my side so that helped me a lot. I too had no idea how to deal. As far as i know he was not dating or seeing anyone else but we still lived together. But with a new baby you just tend to set other things aside and focus only on your babies well being. You and you alone need to decide wether or not to settle for someone who clearly does not care about your well being and would rather be selfish and date other people.I don't know you but i can already tell you that you and your baby deserve nothing but the best and someone who is willing to give that to you. I, after 7 months got back together with my boyfriend. I don't think i will ever be able to forgive him for leaving me at the time i needed him most, the scariest part of my life, he was there at the delivery but i feel ripped off. Ripped off of what was supposed to be one of the most important days of my life. So if you will be able to forgive him for that and what he put you through then it's gotta be worth a shot to try. As long as you have friends and family to help you through you will be good to go and probly happier with you and your baby! All the very best to you and your expected baby. Trust me, when you hear the first sounds come out of your baby nothing else in the world matters!
2007-05-19 13:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by Tasha G 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother going through a wicked and evil divorce. I am protecting my child with my blood and all my money....You may not realize it yet, but this child will mean more to you than any man. Hopefully, you are educated and have the ability to support this child. I know you love this man...I am sure you do. I am sure he says everything right...but think about it. Do you want to bring a child into that situation? You are no longer thinking for yourself. It is a hard realization to accept. It is crucial though. You will influence the entire being, life, emotional, intellectual growth of another person. Ask yourself how you would want your child to deal with what you are going through now...what would you say?
2007-05-19 13:30:54 · answer #3 · answered by CherryCheri 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear that you have to go through this. You do not need this added stress especially with being pregnant. I do not believe this "man" is serious about becoming a responsible father or significant other. You can do this on your own and without the added stress. I am sorry but that is terribly disrespectful towards you and your child. Why does he not want to try to make this work now, while you are pregnant and bring this child into a loving atmosphere? This is not your fault hun, it is his. Please take care :)
2007-05-19 13:33:03 · answer #4 · answered by angeleyes818 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fisrt~Trust your judgement.
Second~ If this guy can't "make it work" before baby how can
he be expected to honestly try *after* baby is born?
Third~ Focus on You and your baby right now.
Fourth~ Whatever happens rely on the people you can trust to
help you with the baby, your family and your friends-
THAT'S WHAT THEY'RE THERE FOR
2007-05-19 13:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by Katie P 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DONT deal with it, kick him to the curb but let him be in the babies life if he chooses. I had to do that wit h my childs father, i thought we were together, at 8 months pregnant he told me he was married and at 9 months pregnant he told me he was moving his wife to the town i live in and she moved in the day before i had my baby. I am civil with him but that is it, he chooses not to see our son and i get child support good luck i know how hard it is
2007-05-19 13:48:28 · answer #6 · answered by undercovernudist 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first. i am sorry u are going through this. this sounds like a really tough situation. it appears that he's just stringing you along. Try and focus on the new baby for now. Thats way more important than focusing on him!
2007-05-19 13:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by I R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so you're carrying this guy's baby, and he can't even be bothered to STOP DATING???? Just tell me one thing: WHY, WHY, WHY, WHY, WHY do you want this man??? And if you say, "because I loooooove him," I will first scream and then regurgitate!
Please, go talk to a pastor or a counsellor about what you are going to do to make this baby's life right. If you have family, you might want to move in with them for now if that's possible. And, for this baby's sake, I hope you will consider adoption to a loving two-parent home. It's the greatest gift you can give him or her.
2007-05-19 13:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by Terri J 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Ditch him, you are pregnant with his child!!!! Don't hang around for him to have his fun and then come back to you after you suffered for months, pregnant, all alone and knowing what he was up to!
2007-05-19 13:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by Leigh 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you dont feel comfortable with him dating other people then i suggest becoming a single parent, if you have a mother or freind that want to help raise him/her then i also suggest that too.
2007-05-19 13:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by iamboycrazyinaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋