I always hear about women that were raped they cant move on. that pain will stay with them. so could it be possible that some victims can move on after years?
2007-05-19 13:15:40 · 16 answers · asked by . 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Anyone has the power to move on from any crime against them. But it's up to the person if they want to move on. They could hold onto it so they can keep playing the victim and play on people to get what they want. Or they can make a choice to step up and take control of their lives and move forward.They always have a choice!
2007-05-19 13:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No and nor should a woman be expected to. "Moving on" often looks to the woman to stuff it, deny it, stop thinking about it and just try to go on with your life. But often this is easier said then done and is difficult to be effective in doing this.
Sexual assault and abuse is a very traumatic experience mentally, physically and emotionally. Flash backs, anxiety, nightmares, panic attacks, depression, self harm, anger, suicidal ideation, guilt, physical pain/symptoms, are all common things that people have to live with afterwards and possibly for the rest of their life.
The key is to learn how to manage these symptoms and things that occur to be more functional. But this gets better and worse. Women who have been victims can have good days, weeks or years and then break down again on some level and not even know why. This then gets into the idea of "personal failure", "not being strong enough", " letting it bother you" when logically considering what happen it should.
Moving on is a defense mechanism to not think about it or go back to the time and try to keep going and sometimes in getting better women have to look at recognizing that a problem exists and that it is not their fault.
2007-05-26 02:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can move on but just like everything else in your life it helps shape you. It can make some people feel like victims all the time. But it makes others stronger for having survived it. I was a victim of childhood sexual violence by a stranger. I was a victim for years but then I became a stronger person because of it. I used my experience to help other victims of childhood sexual abuse. I raised 19 children and each of them had some form of sexual abuse in their very early childhood. I used my experience to be able to let them know they were not the only one it happened to and that it was not their fault. This helped them to grow stronger and stop them from staying victims all their lives. Life can be cruel but you can turn negatives into positives
2007-05-27 16:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain will fade, and it is possible to move on. It all depends on the persons mentality. I myself was molested at the young age of 11 in a public indoor pool because I was an easy "target" as I was by myself. But when he attempted to do it a second time, I stared him down, (scary for an 11 year old, but...) and found a group of school girls I sort of knew to hang out with until my mom could came to get me. It stole away my childhood, because I felt like everyone was staring at me as if they knew. I didn't even tell my parents until I was seventeen.
For years I thought it was my fault, and I would never be happy again. That ended the day I shared my story with someone who later became my boyfriend, and then my husband. He didn't look down on me, or judge me. It was a wonderful feeling. I can still clearly see the face of the person who did this to me, but the pain itself has faded and allowed me to live again.
2007-05-19 20:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by CrystalClear 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With the right attitude and therapy, some people can move on with their life. It isn't easy "getting over" being sexually assaulted. You will never truly be over it, but you can adjust and not dwell on the act that was performed against you. It sounds easier than it is, because it isn't easy at all. It could take many years for a person to find the right adjustment, whatever it may be, before they can truly move on.
2007-05-19 20:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by btij06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through many years of therapy. Tried to cover up the pain with heroin and crack. Talk to someone. Do not keep it all inside and be closed off from the world. It will lead only to harmful things down the road.
2007-05-19 20:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, some can move on and some just can't.
i think it's kind of like ghosts. they linger here only becasue they suffered injustice, they still have unfinished business. and that is what rape survivors sometimes face.
maybe they can't tell anyone i.e. unsupportive family, it was a date rape and he is friends with your friends ("how will anyone believe?") and also if they never ever seek treatment with all of these. they may never recover IF all these happen.
so yes, it is possible
2007-05-20 04:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by nila_dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you call moving on? Can they ever forget? No. Will it always have some effect on them? Yes. Can they heal and have productive lives with joy and peace? You bet. But it is not easy.
2007-05-24 23:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by TAT 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes-no doubt a lot of women have moved on. Thank goodness...
2007-05-19 20:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People definitely can move on. It happens more often then it should, but people do move on. It's just harder for some people to get on with their lives then it is for others. No matter how awful it was, they can keep their lives going.
2007-05-19 20:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by Remy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋