2007-05-19 12:58:38 · 16 answers · asked by cyndy k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is he obligated to help you financially *merely* because you were married to him for 18 years (as in alimony)? NO. Get a job and support yourself.
2007-05-19 13:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you remarry any alimony you are award in the divorce decree will stop..If you have moved in with your new love, it may be a factor on getting alimony. Note alimony received is income received and the IRS and many states tax this income.
If you have children, and you are awarded custody you will receive child support till they are 18.
Please ignore some of the judgmental answers of others.
Its your live, you are an adult, you have the right to make your own choices.
I wish you all the best.
2007-05-19 20:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually, in most states it is 20 years.
But you know, you're leaving the guy and all and most courts (rightfully so) will not grant you alimony. If you have children under 18, his financial obligation would be to support them (rightfully so). Granted, I am not judge but if this was bought up in my court, I wouldn't give you ANY alimony.
2007-05-19 20:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do know that relationships where people leave their significant others for someone else succeed about 5% of the time. why would you want someone who would date a married woman? does he have no morals or values? apparently not. if you have insurmountable problems in your relationship, then deal with those first in the form of fixing them or parting company. But do it without the interference of another lover. your current method of finding new lovers sucks and is is a cheap low-life way to do it.
2007-05-19 20:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Halsted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obligated no, but as one who ansewered said
you are eligible for part of his pension(social
security check) that you have to apply for as he
won't, and division of properties that was accumu-
lated during the marriage, after having gone to
court to try and get those, and as monthly payment
of monies to you , will never happen until you apply
for part of his pension. Leaving your husband
after 18yrs and still want money, UMMMM....
2007-05-19 22:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guys point of view............cyndy k............you dont give to much information...except for the fact that you been married for "18 YEARS"...i knew a woman who was married for the same length of time...and she run off with a guy in n.c. and left her hubby and her 2 children too...any children cyndy? you gonna take them if they are? why are you leaving? this lady said her hubby was abusive but i found out from sources that he wasnt...is yours abusive? or are you doing this for the same reason she did ? sex!!!!!!! i'm sorry this is sounding harsh...but you see i dont take my vows to lightly...i said" i do" 22 years ago this june...there have been good times and there have been some really bad times...i cant see you doing what your doing...this tells me that you have nothing in mind but your own lust...is there anything you can do to work this out with hubby? if not then i think your on your own...have this new guy take care of your expences and everything you need...your HUBBY isnt responsable for your well being now...you and your new beau are...so ask him and leave HUBBY to take care of himself and whatever else he has to care for...
2007-05-19 20:16:14 · answer #6 · answered by hystericaly_kinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have kids and you plan to be primary parent, then he will pay child support, if he has supported you financially throughout the marraige then he will pay alimony for a certain period of time determined by a judge. personally i think that if you leave your husband for someone else than you really shouldn't expect him to pay anything for you (except child support)
2007-05-19 20:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by VW Girl :o) 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why couldn't you have left him before you met someone else? Let me guess, you gave him the best years of your life and so he deserves to be treated like yesterdays garbage. Karma lady, I hope this one rears up and bites you in the *** big time.
2007-05-19 20:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I guess your kids (if you have them) aren't a factor in this situation. IMO if you leave your husband for another man he shouldn't have to give you a penny.
2007-05-19 20:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by barrister02061959 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Legally yes!!! Morally no!!! Since you have been married for over 10 years you are entitled to his pension if he has one and possibly alimony and child support if you plan to be the primary care taker of your kids if you have them!!!
2007-05-19 20:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by L 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋