Hi,
my ex-girlfriend used to have alot of guys which she use to date(meanning more than one guy to be with in relationship at once).She keeps contact with them,and once in a while dates them.
She cheated on me many times;but i have a special connection with her,i still love her as before and i am not mad on her because she cheated on me,i understand her mistakes,and i never misstreated her.More,i offered her more tenderness ,to make her understand that she is really loved by me.But she didn't stop dating guys.
I tried to make her understand that i am beside her if,accidentally,she will make mistakes.But that i cannot agree to be with her if she choose to live dating guys,and that she has to change herself.Finally,we broke.I still love her,she said that she loves me.We miss eachother much-it seems,but she knows that i cannot agree that she is dating other guys.I asked her to cut connection with other guys,but she refused,saying that she needs them.Any advices?Thanks
2007-05-19 11:43:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know your age but from your writing it seems this kind of relationship with this girl is immature. First of all, I admire you for taking the step of breaking up with her. It is very difficult to do that especially if you love that person, but can you see she doesn't care about your feelings? She does not love you the way you should be loved. You deserve someone better than that. She's being complacent because you allow her to do that to you. You need to move on! The girl obviously needs a lot of growing up to do. From your question, she can not be in a monogamous relationship. You are in a different station in life, she still wants to play around and apparently you don't want that.
2007-05-19 12:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by yahabibi_s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can give you is if you are open to it is having an open relationship - she see's other people and so do you. She obviously has a need to see other people and isn't willing to be in a monogamous relationship. Or move on and find someone else that wants a monogamous relationship with you.
2007-05-19 11:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Candy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the right choice, and I know it's painful. But these are not "mistakes". She keeps doing it to you. You can only forgive her so much for the same thing, you know? She appears to be very dependent and you're just another guy on her list, sadly, probably not any more special than the other guys.
2007-05-19 11:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't going to change and you were a fool to think she will. She is the way she is and that is a tramp. She likes being one and neither you or anyone else will change her. Move on and learn to not be a doormat anymore with women. No woman was worth what you gave up, your self-respect.
2007-05-19 11:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said addiction and will not stop. Go on with your life, you may also be mistaking sex for love. Are you?
2007-05-19 11:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by skeeter195848 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change someone who sees no need to change. Move on.
2007-05-19 11:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by datwhittier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋