Is it my fault that an sorority whose suppossed to be righteous people trat me in such a manner?

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During my gradutation, I ran into a few of the members of the organization I ALMOST joined. I messed aroung with the guy who happens to ahve a sister in the sorority I almost joined and his best friend was also trying to be a member as well, and she was sort of my friend. It was wierd because none of them spoke or not even a congratulations. And I know before that had always spoke. I mean one evern ignored me.What was wierd though was the fact that as I was walking to the line to have my name called.I noticed that one of the sorority members husband was staring at me the entire time, and I don not even know him, it was the weirdest thing...I know have alot to be happy about.i have my degree, and family and everything, but I am sort of curious as to how come noone speaks to anymore is it because I din't continue the process, or the fact that I messed around with this guy that they knew, I mean I really don't know?All I know is I feel bad.

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38 minutes ago
And the thing is..is that I know I was wrong about one thing, that one thing was the fact that after me and the guy had sex a few times, he started to act funny and not call me like he used to and stuff, and he even told me that he just wanted to be friends because i was too whiny, I got mad and played on his phone a little bit, and he called me stalkerish because of it, but he invited me to his house where he had just moved too, and we slept together again, and so he threatned to tell the sorority member my business if i contacted him again, but then when I seen him not oo long ago, he was trying to talk to me again.So I text messaged him this morning, and congratulated him on graduating, and he was like thinks, and he asked me what I was sorry for, because i told him that i was sorry for all the drama I cause and stuff, and that was it, he didn't say anything after that

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55 seconds ago
it was funny because when me and my family went out to eat after the graduation and I ran into one of them, and she actually gave me a hug, and asked me what my plans was , and I told her that I aplogize for not going through with joining and everything and I told her I never meant to disresepct the organization, so i just thought that was wierd

Sorry for all the puntiation and grammar errors. I was typing fast and there is alot of information I 'm trying to convey.Thank you.BTW I am an excellend writer.Chill out

This is an NPHC sorority. I don't wanna say which one though.

Answer 1

I'm just curious -- what sorority was it?

I am a member of Alpha Delta Pi and there is definately a difference in how a group treats you when they're together or when they're alone. Usually, the group will pretty much ignore you because they (1) think they're better than you (we're in this sorority, we're sooooo superiour) or (2) they're really not that interested in you (we're so self-involved that we don't even notice you're there). I'm not like this at all, and it made me really uncomfortable when my sorority sisters would act this way. Once when I tried to say hi to a friend from high school they all kid of gave me the stink eye and hushed me. It's almost like it's a cult that they do not want outsiders involved in - at all. When sisters are alone though, they are usually really, really nice. Most of their superiority complex goes away and they will have a genuine conversation with you.

The bottom line is this -- you're out of school, let them be. Sororities don't matter after graduation anyway. Live your life and be happy that in college people didn't look at you (and your group) and automatically think, "*****," You'll be fine. :)

Answer 2

You wrote: "Is it my fault that an sorority whose suppossed to be righteous people trat me in such a manner"

Get over yourself. You sound paranoid.

You didn't join, so it makes no difference what kind of relationship you have with the sorority - they're not your Greek sisters.

Matter of fact, since you didn't join, worrying about the sorority and its members is sorta like stalking them.

Just leave it alone.

Answer 3

Sororities are irrelevant in the real world beyond college. Move on.