I have been friends with my best friend for years. Last year she kinda started pushing me away, and started smoking. She know how i feel about it, adn promised me she would never do it again. Now she dose it all the time, and tells me its not big deal balh blah blah. I lover her to death and i dnt want to her push me away, or die of an early death. I want her to stop hanging with the trash she is hangoing out with and come back to our old groupe. How should i talk to her?
2007-05-19 09:39:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her how you feel about her smoking and pushing you away. Inform her that it hurts you so much that she's doing this to you.
Be honest to her. Tell her the consenquences on what happens when you smoke. If she keeps pushing you and smoking she doesn't deserve your friendship
If your friendship ends it's her fault for losing a friend like you.
It will hurt alot if you lose her, but some thing's happens for the best. If she ends up with cancer, you warned her.
2007-05-19 09:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes no matter what you do people just grow apart. You can't force someone to be your best friend. If she is engaging in behaviors and hanging out with people you don't approve of it may be a blessing in disguise if you aren't as close to her anymore.
Certainly you should continue to talk to her and let her know that you are concerned about her, but you should also concentrate on making friends who share your values.
2007-05-19 16:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by looneybin90 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be direct and honest, express your concerns, then realize you can't change her, no matter how much you don't approve. This may not be a best friend for you anymore, if it is causing so much stress for you. In life at times you will grow apart from people, this may be that time. Might be time to move on if it is not working out.
2007-05-19 16:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by zeekandthefam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doesn't sound like she is going to come around. I hate to say it... but give up on her. If she wants to be friends with you she will change her bad habits and it doesn't seem like she wants to do that. You have to just give up on some people. I suggest not talking to her at all. Let her talk to you when she gets some sense.
2007-05-19 16:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by *Shayla* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly there is nothing you can say or do ..to get her to change..it has to be something she wants..unfortunatly..as we get older our groups change and so do we..move on and stay friends from a distance..just like the saying...set it free if it comes back it was meant to be
2007-05-19 16:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She won't come back unless she wants too. She knows right from wrong, let her make her own decision.
2007-05-19 16:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel about tis. tell her dat she's hurtin u wat she is doin and if dat doesn't work then let it be and move but i know you don't want that. talk to her parents. talk to the school counsler. talking always help.
2007-05-19 16:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by honey + biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you love her and you don't want to see anything bad happen to her
2007-05-19 16:48:20 · answer #8 · answered by queencoleman32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋