my ex thinks he can just come back to me because he has no girlfriend right now and is very lonely. he is one year older than me so he is just one grade ahead. i guess he thinks im just a young girl so he can take advantage or something? we went out for 3 months and its been 4 months since the break up! i havnt dated any one since then but hes had like 6-9 girlfriends.....
i have always liked him so im tempted to go back out with him
but i dont want him to think im a doormat
but i've liked him for so long....
maybe we should give it another try?
2007-05-19 09:37:19 · 15 answers · asked by angle1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
2007-05-19 09:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by wildatheart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my friend, I think you first have to figure out what YOUR definition of a "doormat" is, and then whether your behavior by going back to him would fit that definition. Just how low are you willing to stoop, and, more importantly, why?
I'm certainly not casting stones over here. Loneliness is tough, and after the painful break-up of my first boyfriend of two years, (and before I'd begun to realize my own self worth), I did everything to try to get him to take me back. (And I'll spare you the details. Suffice it to say, it wasn't pretty.)
What took me a long time to figure out, (and what I hope you "get" much sooner!), is that any guy who doesn't think you are the greatest thing going doesn't deserve to be blessed with your attentions. If your ex had the tiniest bit of respect for you, he certainly wouldn't be sniffing around because he happens to be without a girlfriend, and is lonely. (BFD! He'll get over it.)
I encourage you to take the high road, and follow your head, not your heart, on this one. Find some wonderful guy who thinks you're equally, if not more, wonderful in return!
Be particular, sweetie.
2007-05-19 09:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always had the personal experince that getting back with an ex has never worked out. For some people it may work out, but many times I have found out that it doesnt. Dont let him take advantage of you, he may think he can, but dont let him. Have you read the book "It's called a breakup because its broken"? Its by the same guy who wrote hes just not that into you. He might think he can get back with you whenever he wants or whenever hes done with his other girlfriends.
2007-05-19 09:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a doormat, if you feel that way, then do not go out with him, don't be tempted, he will only hurt you in the future. You deserve better. Don't let anyone take advantage of you ever.
2007-05-19 09:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by zeekandthefam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're the one allowing him to think you're a doormat. If you would stand your ground and tell him no, that you are not going to go out with him because he doesn't have anyone else to be with then you would have self respect. He surely doesn't have any for you! Try doing this because when you are older and you've already learned self respect others can't walk all over you and use you!
2007-05-19 09:42:45 · answer #5 · answered by wilfeistykitten2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you go back with him, then you are a doormat. He just wants someone he can make-out with in between girls. You need to find another guy who wants to be with you and not just looking to use you.
2007-05-19 09:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Cambrianna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's right
you a doormat if you accept him
if you have any self respect
you would have gone for another guy
who treats you better
but the fact that you are even entertaining the idea of getting back together
shows your desperation ( not his.. ) and you have low eself esteem since you think you cannot get another ( and better ) guy
2007-05-19 09:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no because of all the reasons you just said. it's very tempting since you like him but the fact that he is a player, you need to get someone that's more worth it. if yo9u went back to him, he may jut break up with you again and date another ten girls.he may be with you now cos' he's lonely. dont' get your heart broken again.
2007-05-19 09:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go back to him let him know from the start that you are not a doormat and if it doesn't work this time that he needs to move on with his life and let you get on with yours. But just be careful that its not just a relationship that is going to be one that he is watching every thing you do.
2007-05-19 09:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by pinksmallbubbles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to go away in a loud firm voice if he trys to make like u didnt mean ask did I studdered. If he keeps harrsing you tell a parent if your still under 18 and if u are over 18 get a restraining order
2007-05-19 09:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by Ariellle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋