I am married and had 8 months old baby girl, and now i felt that i am not inlove to my husband. i feel this since i was pregnant and i ignore this feelings to my husband but its not change, i dont want to be broken family and i am worried about my daughter. What i should do? do i need to tell to my husband this?
2007-05-19 09:34:25 · 6 answers · asked by conanlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Feelings of love do come and go. In a married relationship this is always true. Some people bounce from marriage to marriage because they're always looking for this infatuation high.
Your marriage has become boring because you're not giving each other the attention that's needed. You may be discovering faults you never knew were there and you're focusing on them. Your energy has shifted, and you may be wondering if this is what the rest of your life looks like, do you really want it?
This is a signal for a new phase of your marriage, not the end of it. So yes, by all means, tell your husband that you think the fizz has gone out of it. You want to stay committed, particularly if more intimacy can be developed. You may want to start setting a routine of a date night (eg. Every other Friday night). If you do the things you did at first when you fell in love, your feelings are very likely to change!
By all means seek counsel if possible. The very best father for your daughter is the one you conceived her with. If he's any kind of man at all, he'll be willing to look at some possibilities. You won't feel good about yourself with leaving until you've given it your best shot.
If counseling scares you too much, you could both pick out a book together on healthy marriage and read it. Often couples give up not because things are broken, but because they don't necessarily have the tools to foster a long term intimate relationship. May you discover the joy of life-time love!
2007-05-19 11:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by waldguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all why did you get married to the guy. sewcondly do not concern yourself with the child if you are unhappy you will just take it out on the baby. Get a divorce or seek some counselling with your husband. I think you could be going through some depression after the baby was born and it could be causing you to feel nothing for your husband at this time. I think you need to think about being happy and if you not happy right now then time to fix that.
2007-05-19 09:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have just had a baby girl...which means tremendous responsibility, your mind and your body have gone through a lot...give yourself time. Many women get turned off their husbands during this period. It over whelming. You are a new woman, he is still the same man. Give your marriage and your husband time. Try and involve him in your life. The center of your universe has changed...he doesnt know though. Find the reasons you were in love with him....maybe they are still there. Sometimes you need to work harder on relationships.
2007-05-19 09:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Tell him in order to find out what the problem i think he need to know how you feel and maybe you should do some thinking about who you are and what you wanna do. Why all of certain you have these feeling now, I can't judge you sit down and chat do what best for you Lil girl but make sure you have no regrets. Good Luck....
2007-05-19 09:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by sexychocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not happy that you should get out of the relation ship, cause you dont want your child growing up with the wrong image of a relationship
2007-05-19 09:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by wiccan_earth_god 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes tell him and maybe some counseling
2007-05-19 09:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋