Why do men change after a certain time???

Question

I befriended the greatest friend whom i called my best friend. The first time we met he was really sweet, caring, thoughtful, sensitive, humorous, everything that a girl could ever dream of. However, just 4 months ago he took a course, n it seems to be getting the best of him, he doesn't seem to be the same person i once knew. He is cold, insensitive, a pathological liar, always giving excuses, doesn't speak as much, doesn't have a sense of humor or make jokes. I am really furious at this pt n don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to end our friendship, but it seems like he's pushing me away every chance he gets n i am sick of it, i want the old friend back. What do you suggest i do, besides ending the frienship?????? I feel like banging my head on the wall. Thank you in advance.

Answer 1

act wisely not what your heart wants.

it is clear that he doesnt want to keep your relationship, so why do you want to feel upset. you SHOULD end this relationship.listen plz

Answer 2

As hurtful as your "friend's" character and attitude change may be, cut your losses and be thankful that you got a chance to see this side of him, before you exchanged more than "friendship." Men, women, people do not "change" after a time; what happens is the true person comes to the surface. Putting on a false face and a great personality is easy, initially. But the longer you have to pretend, the harder it gets until finally, the mask comes off and the person behind the mask is revealed. Many of us make the mistake of falling for someone after seeing only one side of their persona, and that is not good. You need to see how a young man or young lady reacts under pressure and bad situations, not only when they're smiling and happy. Another issue is that we ladies can read too much into the attentions of the opposite sex, far too soon. We can become serious, clingy and possessive when all he wanted was to hang out and "kick it" with you. The fact that he lies a lot is your indicator that he was never truly, a "best friend." When a man pushes a young lady away, that's an indicator that you are not his choice. Think well enough of yourself to trust that the right person for you, will be truthful, sweet, caring, thoughtful, sensitive and humorous from within - not from a place of pretense. Don't take yourself (nor him) so seriously....make it a point, to enjoy your life! Join some age-appropriate activity group...go to some church functions, volunteer...meet a variety of people. You may just find that your frame of reference needs to be expanded, in order for you to improve your quality of life, as well as your chances of meeting a truly, great guy. Don't bang your head against a wall...accept his last push as his absolute final one. Don't allow ANYone...male or female, to make an airport out of your life...taking off and landing when ever they get good and ready. That great feeling will come again for you if you stand for what you know to be right, get involved in life and make loving you, your number one priority. A real man will like the confident woman that he sees, and recognize that he has found a prize!

Answer 3

Form what I gather, it could be one of three things that's causing his attitude change.

One: simply stress. Some people can't handle stress or change or anything new or different in their daily routine. If he just took a course a few months ago, perhaps that was enough stress to break him.

Two: He doesn't know how to handle your friendship. He may be falling for you and it scares him. The change in attitude could be a defensive mechanism to ensure that you do the "dirty deed" and break off your friendship so he can run before he falls hard for you. That way you are the bad person, not him. If this is the case, the end justifies the means and he will be able to rationalize with himself that he didn't do anything to jeopardize the friendship - it was you. He treats you bad; you "over-react; the friendship is over... he doesn't have to worry about getting a broken heart.

Three: The person you met was the person that he thought you would want to meet. Now that he is comfortable with you, his true colors are coming through. The man was a total jerk form the start and who you thought he was, simply put was just one act in a play.

You need to confront him about his change in attitude. Be specific, don't generalize! The more specific you are the less chance he has of weasling out of the responsibility for his recent actions/attitude. Expect the worst and pray for the best outcome. He may be madly in love with you and having a hard time admitting it to himself, let alone you; or he may be a jerk. I wish you the best of luck. In closing, the confrontation MUST occur or the situation most likely will worsen.

Answer 4

I don't want to sound negative but it sounds like he is trying to push you away. People don't just change overnight. People are the way they are wether or not they show you all of it right away. So, for whatever reason he has decided to act this way towards you, I certainly wouldnt want to be friends with anyone who acts so immaturely. He was probably always this way from the beginning but was putting on the "charm" when you first met. Now you are seeing his true colors. As for what you should do, you can't change people. If he is acting mean towards you it is his choice to do so. Only he can stop it. But honestly, would you want to remain friends with someone who is treating you like this in the first place? Real friends aren't cold and insenstive towards eachother. They dont pathologically lie to eachother. This man is not your friend.

Answer 5

i once read that men want women to stay the same and woman want men to change over the course of their relationship.

I think this guy is just showing you his true colors. I wouldn't want a "pathological liar" as a friend, but maybe you do.

I think you already are banging your head on the wall--

isn't the definition of crazy--doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results each time? exactly what you are doing?

Answer 6

I can't really answer your question. That also happened with my guy best friend, now we don't talk at all. Don't loose your friendship with him by ignoring him. Talk to him and tell him you feel about how he's pushing you away, don't stay quiet and lose your friendship with you and him. Be honest with him. If he acts like an *** then sorry to say but some friendships end for the best. If he treats you like crap he doesn't deserve a friend like you. They're better friends out there then just one.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I think you should sit him down and let him know exactly how you feel. Maybe he doesn't see what he's putting you through and this is a good time to let him know that he's hurting you inside. If you really want to continue this friendship, I strongly suggest that you talk to him. Without communication nothing will get good. I hope things work on ur favor love...good luck!

Answer 9

Stop banging your head against the wall. If he's changed and your asking him what's up hasn't helped you get back where you once were with him, then he's changed and you're better to make a life without him.

Answer 10

Perhaps you've overstepped the boundaries as a friend. Could it be it's you that's changed, or has he seen you for what or who you really are?

Perhaps he was always this way and you were just so infatuated you failed to see his true self.

Just remember, just because someone isn't able to respond or reciprocate the same affections for you, doesn't mean you aren't worthy of all those affections.