I like to play pool and drink and chain smoke and listen to loud music-basically I like going to a bar. My husband will stay home and babysit while I go to a regular hangout spot. I get surprised looks all the time when I tell people (usually guys) that my husband lets me go out alone. Why is this so surprising? It isn't like I wear revealing clothes-I usually wear jeans & halter- and I don't try to pick anyone up- I just like to play pool--So, why is there such a problem with my being out alone??
2007-05-19 08:45:42 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It isn't so much the problem with being out alone as that you have children (and a husband) that would benefit from their mother being home and not out drinking, chain smoking, playing pool, and listening to loud music.
One guys opinion.
2007-05-19 09:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Going out alone isn't the problem, it's where you're going. I don't think married people-men or women- should go hanging out at bars alone. It just looks look you don't care about your spouse or your children. Don't get me wrong, mommy time is important, but once you decided to have kids you should have dropped the cancer sticks and joined a book club or something. If you really want to go clubbing, then call a babysitter and go out with your man. Obviously he's a great catch if he's still around.
2007-05-19 09:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
u have a good man there,he trust u a lot.don't mind what others sayby telling u that u need to stay home. be thankful that u have an understanding husband that lets u have a break here and there. u asked why is this so surprising?its surprising to others cuz in most cases,most men will not allow their wives to go out by themselves.and believe me,there is a lot of ladies that would love to be in ur place right now.so just do ur thing and stay faithful to ur man.
2007-05-19 09:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by leen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't see any problem. Your husband obviously trusts you. Sometimes trust is hard to give, and it sounds like these people at the bar have trust issues or have had trust issues in the past. Either that, or they are at the bar for other reasons. My fiance says that people go to bars to get laid. Some people just find it hard to believe that a married woman going out to a bar isn't looking for an affair. A lot of men don't like their women going out alone in fear that she will cheat. It takes a lot of trust for a man to let his wife go out to a bar by herself. The reason why it is so surprising to people is because there are a lot of men who don't give their wife that trust like they should, and its almost as if you are an exception.
2007-05-19 08:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by WTF 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think people are shocked because it is normal for a man to be out with the boys while the wife and kids are at home. I have experienced the same reactions whenever I tell someone the kids are hanging out with dad at home, while I get some me time. As long as your husband doesn't have a problem with you going out, then get you some "me" time and have fun!!!
2007-05-19 09:28:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lil_MissVal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you being out by self, I think it's great you have a super husband like you do. Be thankful for him. You need free time on your own so can continue to be yourself & not forget that. If other people don't understand then it's none of their business. That's between you & your husband. Go for it . Lots of Hugs to You!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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2007-05-19 08:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by texasstar1974 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's usually the men in marriages who go out to bars, and usually the woman (wife) stays home and takes care of the children.
But YOU should have fun and go to bars once in a while.
2007-05-19 09:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets see, you dress sexy, talk to guys and tell them you are married. Sounds like a tease to me. I think you may enjoy seeing the looks when you tell them you are married. Just be careful, some men don't care and you might get into a situation you can't get out of. Good luck
2007-05-19 10:20:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, in fact it's healthy that you and your husband have time alone from each other and that you are able to go out and interact with your friends without him.
If anyone gives you any fuss about it, ask them where their significant other is. If they don't have one, then point out that maybe they don't really know what married life is REALLY like and perhaps they shouldn't judge until they experience it themselves.
2007-05-19 08:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by Laura 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it, but people like to gossip. Maintain yourself like a lady at all times and there won't be anything for anyone to say. I sometimes go out by myself too, and I always say no thank you, I'm married. As for your wardrobe choice, there's nothing wrong with a married woman looking sexy.
2007-05-19 08:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by anae 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋