My boyfriend keeps telling me he wants a baby. I have a two yr old daughter from a previous relationship and he has been there for her, he is great. I just don't know if I should have another baby right now. We are not at our best financially, at the moment, but I do think we would make it. I do want to have another baby, I don't want my children to be too far apart, but he kind of pushes it on me everyday. He keeps bringing up how he can't wait to be a dad and I am happy, but I kinda feel pushed into a corner. I really love this guy! He has been there for me through all kinds of drama, I just don't know what's wrong. I guess I'm kinda scared to be left again. I know he wouldn't do that, but I just can't really figure out what it is. We have been together for three years already, he is 20 and I am 21. What do y'all think...
2007-05-19 07:36:45 · 16 answers · asked by DADDYSGAL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have talked about getting married, it wont be a big wedding and all, it will be through court and in the next month, I know that is very important.
2007-05-19 07:52:20 · update #1
My daughter will be three soon and he got with me when she was about 3 months old.
2007-05-19 07:56:06 · update #2
Wait until you guys are older
2007-05-19 07:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by lalalaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so young, i think you should wait and i also think that you should try to exlain to him all the things that you are feeling . a two year from another relationship but you have been with this guy for three years, i 'm confused? but if he was there for your daughter when she was a newborn then he must know how much work it is, and i do beleive that you may have that fear of being alone with two kids in the back of your mind even though you don't realize it. i would wait until your daughter is 4 or 5 years old . i found that this is a good spread between children so that you can give the new baby the time that it needs and the older child will be involved in kindergarten or preschool . just a thought .... good luck
2007-05-19 14:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are still young. I know you don't want to have too much time between children, but you shouldn't allow yourself to be pressured into something you aren't ready for.
Why is he so adamant about having a child right away. You may have been together for almost 3 years, but once you have an actual commitment, as in a marriage, sometimes things change.
There is nothing wrong with waiting at least another year before having another baby. Give yourselves time to really form a family together before adding the pressure of another baby.
2007-05-20 00:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by meg3f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you guy's are young. My bf and I are 21 and 22, we're waiting for financial reasons, and we both agree that is the best way to go about it. Tell him that financially it would be cruel to bring a child into the world that you cannot give everything they need to due to your financial position. Why not tell him once the two of you are making more money and doing better, then you guy's can talk about a baby.
Besides if he wants a baby bad enough with you, why hasn't he married you? Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free? Tell him you'd rathe be married and in good financial status to have another child, but not before.
2007-05-19 14:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is wanting a child with you that bad no matter what your financial situation is he will do what ever it takes to take care of all yall. Yes you are young but you also are mature enough to handle it. Leave the past behind you move on to the future and take things a step forward. Talk to him about marriage even. It sounds like it would be a good thing to do because he obviously loves you so much that he wants you to have his child. Just set down and talk to him. Yall will figure things out!
2007-05-19 14:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by waltdawg3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want a baby, you don't have to have one. However, you need to think about why you don't want the BABY. What's wrong with having another child? If you already know you are going to have children in the future, I don't see why having a baby now would be wrong. Maybe your boyfriend wants to have a deeper connection with you, and really wants a family with you! Just think about it.
2007-05-19 14:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Susan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 23 my wife 24 she is currently pregnant and we also have a two yr old... the 2 yr old isnt mine either but i can say that he is pushing for another child because he doesnt want to feel left out... if you are ready to have another... go for it... if not... dont
2007-05-19 14:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by ariansfather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the commitment of marriage before you make the commitment to have a baby.
2007-05-19 14:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by p00756 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um, you should be married first for many reasons. Wait a few years. Believe me it will be worth it.
2007-05-19 14:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him yes. Then say you got to marry me first.
2007-05-19 14:39:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋