I ve been dating this guy for 9 months and I love him so much. Hes going through a divorce and is seperated from his wife at the moment. I made a mistake and called this girl to her house just to see if that was her phone number, and how she sounded on the phone (if youre a girl you understand) Well now she has my phone number she traced the call and knows who I am. What should i do? No hurtfull answers please I know I made a mistake in calling her. Just some truthfull and hhelpfull advice, and b4 you say it... I know I shouldnt have been calling her. My bf forgived me about it but Im worried about what she can do. Shes kinda psycho. Please help. Oh and by the way I wasnt the one who split them up. They were split up 4 months before I came into the picture.
2007-05-19 06:25:13 · 19 answers · asked by Is that your final answer? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not a homewrecker. He came and asked me out 4 four get it 4 four months after he got seperated. Hello cant you read. He doesnt have any kids, they were together for 6 mos only. Dont be hateful cuz YOUR husband cheated on you. If it happens, it happens its called destiny you idiot.
2007-05-19 06:47:12 · update #1
Simple. Change your phone number and get a doberman. Problem solved.
2007-05-19 06:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What boyfriend? And by the way, no wife is psycho. The problem is you. No one can consider a married man as a boyfriend unless they are violating the "unwritten females' law". That man is not divorced. A "separation" is merely a time away from each other, which time is to be used to think about what went wrong, get help, solve the problem and get back together. You, in reality are a homewrecker, and you had no right to call the wife's home, whether or not it was thru your friend. Don't you understand that if he is cheating on his wife with you, then he will cheat on you with someone else. Are you sure you want that kind of trouble in your life. Run, don't walk, away from that man and find some single guy to call your boyfriend. "split up" and "separated" do not equal "divorce". And if there are children involved, then "you" become the extra wheel in the future, and his children will come before you. Are you sure you want to be last in line for attention? And, possibly get stuck babysitting his children while he is out cheating on you? Give the situation a lot of thought.
2007-05-19 13:34:37 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since they still have not officially divorced, how would you feel if they reconsiled? This is just a question for you to think about.
(The other person should never call the wife or the husband). Actually the other person should not even call the significant other at any time. A person who does this is unsure of herself for some reason. It should not concern you how she sounds, what she looks like-just that it is over.
Since you are a girl, you must understand how she feels in harassing you now that you just had to hear her voice.
The best thing that you can do is apologize to her either by verbalizing it through phone or sending a letter and then change your phone number.
I would say something like this: "I was foolish in calling your number, please forgive me" and that is the only communication you should have no matter what happens or how often she tries to contact you.
I question why it is taking so long for him to divorce since you have been dating him for over nine months? Will there be trust between the two of you since he is still married and you know this and still chooses to have a long relationship with him? Divorce does not take that long. Many men will stay married and fool around with anyone willing to fool around with them. My ex would still be married to me if I had not divorced him even though he had other relationships. His words were"I would have never divorced you". Live and learn young lady.
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2007-05-19 14:25:06 · answer #3 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One rule of thumb is this:NEVER date someone who is only seperated ! NEVER! The fact that they could so eaily go from marriage right into a relationship without time to heal emotionally tells me something , that they can take you or leave you no biggie.Always wait until the divorce is finalized, they have ALL the legal matters settled and the hard feelings have died down some. Has she called you? Why don't you get HER side of the story? Maybe she isn't nearly as bad as HE makes her out to be.Are you afraid she isn't 100% satan and he isn't 100% angel? If she really is psycho the worst that can happen is that she will kill you.Oh and by the way, when a person says "please no hurtful answers " thats their way of saying "please, I'm a coward and WILL NOT face reality, but will only take answers I like ,otherwise I will stick my head up my butt!"
2007-05-19 13:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say anything about you calling this woman.What I want to address is you dating this man . He is going though a lot emotionally and you could get hurt.If he had been divorced a couple of years I'd say it's ok,because he would have been back to himself and not need to date anyone.It's very hard to truly give yourself to someone when you are going through a divorce.Physically it's easy but emotionally it's hard.I would hate to see you get hurt any more than you are.This sounds like a rebound relationship and is not good for you.Get out while you still have some dignity.
2007-05-19 13:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep your distance and cease any contact with her. You gotta understand that it's probably really hard for her to go through the divorce. And sometimes when a person's emotions get going, like they might in a divorce, it can be easy for someone to come off a little like a psycho. She probably isn't ready to let him go. Just let her deal with that however she's going to deal with it. It's obvious that you sound confident in your relationship so it shouldn't be any kind of threat to you or your relationship.
2007-05-19 13:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if thats the case dont worry about it.... you didnt do anything wrong and you shouldnt feel ashamed. Im sure it hurt her to know hes with someone else but she would have found out evetually, However if she does contact you or start an argument try to stay calm and be nice although I know it may be hard to do, just put yourself in her shoes when you've been with someone for a long and married its gunna be hard for her to let go fully
2007-05-19 13:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by pennis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should wait a while before getting too involved with this person. Regardless of who is in the "wrong" in the marriage, his emotions are still raw and he may be dating you on the rebound. Also, in reply to other remarks, if it is a legal separation, I believe the law states that they are free to go about their own business as if they weren't married. This may be different though State to State.
2007-05-19 14:01:57 · answer #8 · answered by shandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You called her just because of what? This woman is not only being disrespected by the love of her life now she has you to contend with. If any good comes from this maybe it will be that you learned. And girl I have to say where she is now you shall be. Tread easy.
2007-05-19 13:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is wrong with you you don't date some one going through a Dorice and calling his wife no never you have to get things state and maybe go to church an also try some counseling because you are a nut job not to be mean but come on he is married and has a wife + you don't call her with your # try *67 for a restricted #
2007-05-19 13:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by jhkl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋