Guy Only: Do guys have self-esteem issues? What do they worry about?
Question Details: DO you have examples? How can you tell if a guy has self-esteem issues? Do guys have emotion? Please giv me your example? I never had a boyfriend or have been close to a guy that way. I have many. please answer my last question too. Additional Details 11 hours ago Guys around me act like they are machines. Nothing bothers them. I want to be with a guy who is honest and is not afraid to show his emotions. PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTIONS.
2007-05-19 05:05:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Men are socialized around the world to hide their emotions but they do have them. Our self-esteem comes from external factors. What we do for a living, how good looking our g/f's are, what kind of car we drive. Generally, the better you get to know a bloke the better you find out about what he feels.
2007-05-19 05:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Long time since I've seen someone flood different forums like you do ... WOW ...
Not a man, but I still want to answer...
Some men have self-esteem issues other don't. You have to judge that by looking at the person not the gender.
Mine worry about everyday things. Making money, fixing the car, not being enough man to keep me satisfied.
Men worry about things just like women do, but they usually worry about different topics.
Low self-esteem shines through in every person that has it. More or less. My opinion is that the more they brag and joke about being great, the lesser their self-esteem. But that is not a rule.
Of course men has emotions they are not things or insects.
They are not machines, things do bother them, but societies in general bring them up to not show that they worry or has emotions. Once you get to know the right man better and he feels comfortable in your company you'll see.
2007-05-19 05:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by --- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do, but it is easier for guys to find our own sense of self worth. We look to ourselves for affirmation, women tend to look to others for approval. The men around you aren't machines, they won't let just anyone in to do them harm. Connections to others can cause harm to the individual; men sometimes disconnect to avoid being harmed by others.
I suspect that lots of guys around you are honest and have feelings, but you do not recognize when it occurs. You assume that the behavior will be just like your female friends. An incorrect assumption.
No one likes being hurt, and guys have huge defense mechanisms to be certain that the other person will never know that we have been wounded. Women want the other person to know that they have been hurt, because they feel taht they should feel badly that they have treated someone like that.
I had a male trainer at work once that was a very nice guy and a very upbeat guy. Someone in the class asked him if he was ever in a bad mood or had a bad day. He replied, "Sure, but you will never know about it."
Understand what I mean?
2007-05-19 05:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by Randy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They sure do. I was always too shy to approach a girl, even with my wartime Pilot's "Wings" on. It took a girl's initiative, otherwise I think I might have remained unmarried. I think one of my problems was to do with "sex", or a fear of it, having been brought up a committed Christian, believing it to be "wrong". Now, of course, I know differently, and have two super daughters, each with four children.. Anyway, join in a Christian group and you are more likely then to find a "decent" guy, because he will be trying to live by Christian principles. Unlike me he'll not be so inhibited as I was. May God bless you and lead you to the "right" man.
2007-05-19 05:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Malcolm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy's biggest insecurity is his... size. Fortunately this isn't a problem for me. If a guy is acting emotionless, they are probably trying not to be too forward with you as they probably like you. Things bother everyone and as soon as you find someone who acts like they feel and is as honest at you want them to be, go after them.
2007-05-19 05:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sarbinargh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low self-esteem is a self-inflicted state of existence. Men and women both experience this. if you want to put yourself down, I don't want to hear it. Someone else may be interested in listening to someone do that.
2007-05-19 05:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
size
2007-05-19 05:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by meat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably related to rejection, although i don't know why!
2007-05-19 05:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2007-05-19 05:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by naruto51217 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋