well, my mom's birthday is in November, right before thanksgiving.. I forgot her birthday.. I have felt very guilty ever since... My birthday was yesterday, and she hasnt called me.. Not even so much as an email from her... I know it is on purpose because she is just a vendictive person that way... I am furious but at the same time I dont want to let her know how mad or upset I am... I would like some opinions on this and hopefully so what to do's..... Thanks for any help...
2007-05-19 04:53:54 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
that is thwe most immature thing ive ever heard ...especially coming from a mother.....the way that i think about it is.....veen though you forgot she shouldnt have...thats just childish!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-19 04:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by mnd081902 1 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Anyone who forgets anyone s birthday is disrespectful - PERIOD. Let s be real here, if someone cares about you they make an effort. With cell phone reminders, calender reminders, computer reminders etc, it s not rocket science to put in a birthday as a reminder, spend a few bucks on a card and send it. Really people how much effort does it take. It speaks VOLUMES when someone does not respect you or the day you were born by acknowledging it.
Don t give me all that crap about "selfish" and "manipulative" - it s simply lack of respect. Why the heck would anyone take the time, money and energy to acknowledge a persons birthday who just forgot their birthday. That doesn t even make sense. When disrespectful no caring people forget your birthday, then that says it all. They are the ones that made the decision to change the relationship by not taking the time for you. Don t reward that with you taking the time for them.
2015-10-04 20:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
When I was a younger parent I might have been a little vindictive if my grown son forgot my birthday. Now however, I'm a senior and have come to terms with the fact that people take time for whats important to them. This year our son forgot or chose to ignore my and my husbands birthday even though we all have a good relationship. I heard from him on his birthday though and he asked us to join "him and his friends" for his birthday. I decided that when he ignored our birthday and took me out a day late for mothers day that he does things when its convenient for HIM. I love my son with all my heart but I don't think he realizes that parents have feelings too. I didn't even need or want a present or dinner. Just a card or phone call would have been enough. We are always there for our son and that's been a lot. I did send him a card to tell him how much we love him but sometimes you have to allow your loved ones to know what it's like to be overlooked or ignored. His message also tells us that birthdays are no longer important enough to acknowledge. We are respecting that and his decision and going along with his message to us.
2016-05-19 06:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Peter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if my kids forgot my birthday, I’d be pretty hurt. It hasn’t happened yet, but I suppose it’s bound to some day. Even the one that’s usually out of the country usually manages to send flowers even if he can’t call. My birthday is in the middle of the summer, so usually the big family vacation gathering is planned to coincide with my birthday, so everyone’s here anyway. I wouldn’t remind them. I’m one of those silly people who think if you have to remind them, somehow it doesn’t count as much. However, I do think if they were prone to forget, I might get one of the kids who always remembered (probably one of the girls) to be sure the others were clued in. I haven’t forgotten theirs yet. It helps that 3 of the 4 are within days of each other. I think the girls would be hurt but the boys would say it was no big deal (mind you these girls and boys are aged 27-33). I have forgotten my son-in-law’s once. It was so embarrassing, I don’t think I’ll do that again. He brushed it off totally and was fine with it, but it was still embarrassing. Usually a family event is planned around everyone’s birthday so it’s fairly easy to remember
2016-05-17 10:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom sounds a little childish and manipulative. Has she always been like this? MY grandmother totally was. The thing is, I am of the opinion that is MORE the parents' jobs to remember their child's birthday, because MOM definately was there for the birth, even if Dad wasn't. If my children forget my birthday when they grow up, I think I would have a hard time taking it so personally. But, my birthday isn't nearly as big a deal to me as theirs are.
2007-05-19 04:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would never do that to my child. There is nothing you can do. let it pass, and try to remember her Birthday .One of you has to act in a mature fashion, You be the one.OK? I know that one of my sisters had a Birthday on Christmas, and she always complained that she didn't get a card or her Christmas present included her Birthday. All my siblings got together, and we gave her a new Birthday. December 1st. She loved the idea and it has been that way ever since.
2007-05-19 05:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is being very childish. You should never "get even" with your kids no matter what. My son has forgotten my birthday too, but I don't get angry or try to get even. He makes up for it in other ways by coming over and helping me do yard work or something. We get to spend time together an that is the best gift he can give me. If you apologized to your mom for forgetting and she's taking it out on you anyway, just accept the fact that is how she is and move forward. You can't change what happened and you don't deserve to be punished for it.
2007-05-19 04:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When I first read the question, I thought you were upset because your (young) child forgot your birthday, and I was going to tell you to get a life. Then when I read the details and realized that your grown mother was acting this way because her grown daughter overlooked her birthday, I need to change my answer to: don't sweat it. Your mother is obviously immature and selfish. If you usually talk to your mother on the phone or via email, keep doing so. Don't mention your birthday. You need to put yourself way above this kind of emotional abuse. It can't bother you if you don't let it.
2007-05-19 06:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by working mom of 3 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know how she feels my son forgot mine and I will say I was very upset and cried it's just the idea to be acknowledged one day out of the year but somehow I got over it and will still call and send my son a gift because I love him , p.s. I'm still hurt after all it's my son
2014-01-18 14:11:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kathy H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her know call her and say hey Mom thanks for leaving that happy birthday message it was great make her think just say in a sassy way don't be rude but you really hurt her feelings when you forgot her birthday but dont forget it again !!!
2007-05-19 05:31:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ablebaby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should talk and let each other know how you feel. Then resolve to make sure that you never forget again. If it's that important, talk it out and do better next time.
2014-12-19 13:12:51 · answer #11 · answered by Patricia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋