close to him i got really uncomfortable how can i overcome this
2007-05-19 03:57:26 · 9 answers · asked by Lobster 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
its not just with one person it happens with anyone who gets close to be i try to push them away
2007-05-19 04:16:00 · update #1
its not just with one person it happens with anyone who gets close to me i try to push them away
2007-05-19 04:16:39 · update #2
you know human instinct is usually right. i know people tell you that you should over come your trust issues bla bla bla. but then when you take a chance on some one and they turn out to betray you in the very sense that you feared in the first place where are all the people who told you at first to over come your trust issues. i believe that when you are ready and with the right person you will over come your fears. be careful of wearing your heart on your sleeve and always respect yourself. make sure that who ever you are with respects you and supports the decisions that you make with your life. if they are not willing to repect you and treat you the way you demand to be treated then they are not worth your breath much less your time. if you are older like in your 40's and have had relationships crumble time after time you need to understand the root of why you are so untrusting in the first place. perhaps it was some one who should not have betrayed you and they did. like a mother, cousin, best friend, ex lover, father, brother, etc...... you should realize that not everyone is the same and look for characterristics in a person in which you deem trustworthy. good luck life is not easy but use common sense keep your morals strong and you will never go wrong!
2007-05-19 04:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? That is really important. If you are young, maybe it isn't time to get real close yet. If you are older, then you should explore why you are uncomfortable in the relationships. Was it just that this wasn't the right person to be close to, or that you feel uncomfortable getting close to anyone.
2007-05-19 11:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Bag-A-Donuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no..if you pushed them away it means you don't really like them inside your soul....so leave these persons..and find the one..to whom you are attracted...if you have the feeling to push him away..then push him away..you don't need him....
if you are just afraid...he is not suitable for you..but you like him very very much and you wish to be with him..very very much ..that there is nothing else better you would do..then you should talk to him..and discover while discussing on some subjects if you have common values...But do this..if you wish to be with him..and if you have the feeling to push him away...than push him away...because your heart tells you ..is not good for you...but you don't have criteria formed to reject him..and you are confused..if you doubtit ..then talk to them and see if you have common values..in life...otherwise..later you will feel you lost part of your life giving it to him...
2007-05-19 11:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I don't get close to any1, I just try to think that most of the shi+ they are saying is a lie and that keeps me away from getting close to any1 in my life.
2007-05-19 12:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Weirdo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a fear of intimacy. You may want to talk to someone about this who can help you find the cause. Counseling could be a good thing for you to help you overcome this fear.
2007-05-19 12:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Madam,
It is always better to marry rather than becoming very close to someone to whom you like. Then there will not be any scareness or problem with it.
2007-05-19 11:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by mak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems to me that your not ready for this kind of interaction. you should try to fing some freind guys that why you can feel comfortable around them. and you'll see that after awhile you don't care who you talk to you'll be more confiedent to take the next steps in a realtionship
2007-05-19 11:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body is telling you something....either he's not the right person for you, or your not ready for a relationship.
2007-05-19 11:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by j-diddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have a fear of rejection. you need to be comfortable with yourself before you can have a relationship with anybody else.
2007-05-19 11:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by Delete System32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋