why am i still so angry about this?

Question

my mom used to say that i am always quiet when i am in high school then when i come home i am always loud any time i did anything wrong she used to say i will go up to your school and let your teachers know what your like ever since i am quiet in school and at home i barely even talk my siblings i feel like i have become a bore with a dry personality i am so used to being quiet at home now and find it difficult to know what to say is it normal to be a different person in school than you are at home has what happened affected me as a person what really pisses me off now is that i feel like i've had to grow up much faster too cause any time i tried to have a bit of fun there was always someone around me telling me to grow up i am angry too that none of this ever happened to my siblings even though they are qiuet in school and loud at home

Answer 1

The problem is your really still concerned what others think. I mean if my overprotective Mom knew the stuff I did after I got married she would have had fits! I broke away from my family and never looked back on my old way of life. Oh yeah there are twinges once in awhile but you get over it.

You dont' have to tell anyone what your up to.. if the people that are around you are telling you to grow up then you found the wrong typeof friends. Join a club of like minded individuals, a church group heck even the military, at least your all on the same track and working as a team.

Answer 2

My teachers actually told my mother when I was in grade 6 to grade 9, that they wished I would just YELL sometime. I was so quiet.

So what? That was the way I was, and it is much better than being loud and disruptive in school.

You are loud at home because you feel comfortable. End of story.

Is there something else happening at home? Does one of your parents have a problem like drinking too much? Something doesn't seem quite right.

Why should it matter to your mom if the people at your school know you are loud at home and quiet in school? Many kids are more aloof in school for many reasons. As long as you feel okay, and feel good about yourself, help your mom around the house, and don't hurt anyone, she has nothing to argue about.

Being quiet in one place and outgoing in another is normal.
Try your hardest to understand your mom, even if she is wrong, and tell her you love her. Help your mom around the house.

I say this because I was very hard on my mom, and now she has died from cancer, and I never really loved her enough before she died. I really feel like I am in hell right now for not having just hugged her more....even though I didn't get along with her. She is your mom, and is special. You are special to her, too, but she must have a strange way of saying it.

Answer 3

**** man we are quiet at school cos its an institution and there are severe consequences that affect our life at school and home so we do what we gotta do and keep it all under control. Your siblings have been told the same thing only there are more easily scared at that age than you are hense they dont buck the system like you.

Stay cool it will soon be over. Teenage school years is only a stage. You will get over it, just like living at home under your parents rule.

Once you are out there in the real world, it can be an easier road or a harder one depending on wich track you travel. Dont hate babe, at this age it feels like no one understands but believe me parents have been through it all.

Chat to your buddies, school councilors, youthworker and most of all your parents. Let them know honestly how you feel and how real this is for you. Make sure you get your point accross without getting aggressive. Be understanding from your parents points of view.

Worst thing to do is to hold the **** in. Nothing gets resolved if its not out there. There is nothing new, alienated or havnt heard or been there when hearing of teen drama and certainly nothing that cant be resolved.

Have an ear and a compassionate heart. Two sides to everything buddy

Answer 4

May be you are the first child? A lot of responsibility is thrust on the first child esp. if the mother is bringing up the children alone.

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Answer 5

Same thing happened to me, that's why I left home and broke up all contact.
Stop caring about what your mother and others think about you. I know this sounds cliche but be yourself and if others don't want to accept this, to bad for them!
In school you were (I think) yourself, at home you were acting.
Be yourself!
And don't forget, it's your mother who is in the wrong, not you!