Ok this is the deal I am a military wife as well as a mother of 2 great kids. Over the past year we re-located to another military base which meant new people around us , new faces etc. My whole thing is I am not a people person therefore I really don't care to be around alot of people and some of these wives don't understand this ... So my question is how do I let them know that I don't want to be bothered and not be rude at the same time ? PLEASE HELP !!!
2007-05-19 01:53:13 · 12 answers · asked by iculookin0422 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Just be honest with them on how you feel, but start it off with, "I'm sorry, I don't mean to be rude but, I really don't want to go out / talk / have a play date, etc... I'm not really a people person and I like being alone." If they get offended, too bad. You can't please everyone all the time and why would you want to? Your life's not gonna end because they aren't happy. If they keep calling or coming over, just don't answer.
2007-05-19 02:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could just not answer the door or phone, but if it was me I would just be Honest about it tell them your not in the mood you need some space at the same time as thanking them for their offers. After all you might be glad to see one of them someday so keep your options open. If you are Honest they will respect you for it, any that don't you don't want to know in the first place. Don't forget they might just be bored and glad to see a new face it could wear off in a while. so don't fall out just put your foot down good luck
2007-05-19 04:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by starlight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess just from the tone of your question that most people would slowly get the message to stay away from you as you give off vibes which convey that. If my guess is wrong you can just politely make excuses once or twice and I am sure that nobody will knock on your door again. It must be lonely to feel as you do and I am sorry for you because friends are the greatest treasures in life. Good luck.
2007-05-19 02:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by chere t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could just tell them you are grateful for their invitations, but have a lot of things to do around the house. Eventually they will get the hint. But I would make the effort to accept some of their invitations or they might stop altogether, and friends are good if you need an emergency babysitter or help with something. Don't write them off completely.
2007-05-19 02:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by ♫ Sweet Honesty ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know,but if u figure it out let me know because i feel the same way, some of the people in the small town where i live(smaller then some military basses) think i,m a rude snob. i usually just ignore the sniping and go on doing what i need to do,as long as u have some one(say a spouse) who backs u up, who cares, military spouses can some times be pushy because they are looking for some one to fill the hole of the absent spouse and think u need that to. i wish u luck.
2007-05-19 08:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The next time they call or come by tell them that you are very busy and don't really have time to get involved in other things right now. If that doesn't work you may have to resort to not returning phone calls and not answering the door. That will definitely send them the message.
2007-05-19 04:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
A suggestion -
"Hi there. Thank you so much for phoning, calling round. Unfortunately the toilet/sink/drain has backed up and I really must clear it up as quickly as possible.
But don't worry, I'll get back to you just as soon as I'm free."
Then never call them back/go round.
It doesn't matter if they realise you're saying the same thing to everyone. It'll get the message over more quickly. And lets face it, there's no really kind way to tell people to push off.
2007-05-19 02:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can, excuse your self from their presence whenever possible.
Also, try to have to make a call or need to be doing something inside or away from their presence whenever they come around or call.
You don't have to be rude to be seclusive, just try "hey, I'm having cramps, or i was just in the middle of a great chapter in this book ill talk to you later...
good luck, i have the same problem.
2007-05-19 02:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by SUZANNE J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it simple....to not "offend" them simply say,
You seem like a delightful person and I really appreciate your offer of "friendship" (or to join you for ______, )but at this stage in my life I'm really more comfortable with raising my kids and being focused on______.
This phase may pass, so is it OK if I keep your phone number when I feel the need for more social interaction?
2007-05-19 03:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't answer the door or phone when I don't want to talk.
2007-05-19 02:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋