Does your spouse let you do whatever you want?

Answer 1

No. But he should!

Answer 2

This is a silly question that is getting a lot of stupid answers.

Of course there are boundaries in any serious committed relationship, and people with healthy boundaries wouldn't "want" to do anything to harm a good healthy relationshiip, so those people might answer "yes" when they are really happy with those boundaries, and so the correct answer is "No"--not everything is permissable. Mature adults in healthy relationships understand that there are boundaires and that ocassionally each partner in a relationship has to say "no" rather than becoming a human doormat or servant to the other. It's back to the give-and-take model for healthy relationships. Show me a relationship where one partner lets the other have their way all the time, and I'll show you a doormat who is being run by an inflexible control freak.

So in the end, if people think their answer all the way through, heir answer is "no" unless they have an unhealthy relationship.

Answer 3

If it threatens my spouse, do you think I will be let to do what I want? The partners join together for mutual fulfilment wholly believing in the marital bond. So why should one partner want to do something else which the other may object? Do we jump off a fast moving bus? What is that "whatever one wnats" which cannot be approved by the other partner? If I want to do whatever I want in a marriage at the cost of the other, then it is not a marriage.

Answer 4

That only depends on what you want. Your spouse will should certainly not let you go out to party without him/her and maybe begin cheating. You have to respect your spouse. C'mon use a little common sense.

Answer 5

Does my spouse LET me? LET? As in, allow?

I don't look to her for permission of any kind -I DO what I am given to do, period.

Nor does she look to me for permission of any kind -she does what she is given to do, period.

Since we know each other's boundaries, and love one another more than anything else, there has never been a transgression, and neither of us is looking for one any time soon - or any time at all.

It doesn't get any better than this -and we've been at it for more years than I can count.

I so wish you could be the same.

Answer 6

Yes, I do do what I want. But, everything I do is for my family and my marriage. I am not the type of person who does bad things because I choose not too.

Answer 7

Yes, however he knows I am totally self regulating in regard to what we both have decided is acceptable and not in our marriage.
I would never do anything that we damage us or make him lose respect for me.
We have a great marriage - why would I want to 'poop in my own nest'.

Answer 8

Yes, I can do whatever I like, whenever I like (if he isn't doing anything and doesn't need me to stay home with the kids)

Answer 9

Never. The mere idea of inviting 3-4 other girls to bed with us seems ghastly to her.

I don't see the problem though

Answer 10

Yes.
He says as long as the bills are paid and there is food and clean clothes and the kids are taken care of and I am not out cheating and getting in trouble with the law to go for it.
I have no reason to cheat or get in trouble, so as long as you truly liove him and havce no desire to get in trouble with law then you shouldn't have any problem.

Answer 11

Yes. We're both adults and do whatever we want.

Luckily, we both want to do things, most of the time, that are beneficial to each other and to our family.