Like can I take more pictures of our dogs and how I am doing. What I think of the Bronco's draft picks. Stupid stuff. Help I am confused.
2007-05-19 01:35:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When I first got my divorce, my ex-husband started calling and doing the same thing... Can I come see the dogs? Can I come over and take them for a walk? Do they need anything? etc. etc. Sounds like she's still attached and just hasn't let go yet. Be patient and firm with her. If you don't think it's a good idea or can't talk, then say so. You do not have to be available for every call. Good luck!
2007-05-19 03:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a divorced wife, but I'm the second wife in exactly your position. For a couple of years, we were able to actually have decent talks and I thought everything would be alright between her and I. But when we moved in together and got married, she just turned. She got very ugly and couldn't have a decent relationship with me any longer. And very recently, she and my husband got into it and he was done, wasn't going to talk to her any more. I wanted to help resolve the situation so I texted her... and she right off started flinging the most vile insults at me. I was shocked. I really think she's jealous that I have the happy home life that she screwed up. I get along beautifully with their children, they love me and the fact that I don't ever scream at them like she does. It's a really sad situation that she created. I'd have been there for her whenever she needed me (and before this, she DID call on me to help with the kids sometimes and I was happy to oblige.) Well.. to answer your question, I think it is extremely rare that a first and second wife can get along. I work for an attorney and of all the divorces I've seen, there is never a good relationship there. I thought at first that I was pretty blessed in my situation to be able to talk with her as I'd never seen that be the case. But so much for that!! Now we just avoid her as much as we possibly can, which is all you can really do. But that really sucks for everyone, especially the kids. Mature co-parenting would obviously be the best option, but you can't do that with someone you can't even talk to. ADD: To the first answerer: you SURE do assume a lot!! What makes you think she EVER said any of this to the ex-wife, or to anyone for that matter, except to anonymous people on the internet trying to give an accurate portrayal of the situation? I sure as hell haven't said anything like that to my husband's ex, or anyone else, but it's obvious to everyone close to us. And my husband DOES say it, to me. And I'm sure the kids go over there to her house and talk about stuff that happens here, which is all positive. Which I'm sure feeds into her attitude. But I would never rub anything in her face. Not even now, after the way she has treated me. And I get the feeling that the person asking this question is the same way.
2016-05-17 09:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like she is using excuses to still keep in touch with you. Be specific and ask her how much she wants this divorce. If she is truly certain that you two need a divorce. Regardless of what you are feeling, just find out what she is feeling. You have nothing to hide.
The best way to get a divorce is if you both are respectful and treat each other like friends now, especially if there are children involved.
2007-05-19 01:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That may be her point...to confuse you.
Is she divorcing you or are you divorcing her?
If she is divorcing you...move on. Dont accept her phone calls. Chances are, she wants to see if you are still hanging around...still available. Not because she wants you back...she just doesnt want anyone else to have you. Run...dont walk. You are about to be made into a human sized yo yo.
If you are divorcing her...she probably justs wants to connect. See if she can change your mind.
All in all...just watch out. Because no matter the circumstances, she is up to something and has a plan.
2007-05-19 01:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by nan6872 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she needs someone to talk to, why are you all getting a divorce. Sounds like she's looking for excuses to conversate with you. She loves you no doubt. When my ex and I broke up he did that all the and I would get so annoyed because I'm stuggling trying to move on with my life and he's calling me acting like everything is OK. Sounds like she still loves you and you love her. Have a heart to heart and either you all are going to be together or she doesn't need to call because you are moving on and she needs to do the same and calling doesn't help.
2007-05-19 01:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by Smile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that all this is confusing you and ask her what she really wants. I'm sure that taking pics of the dog and the football pics is not exactly what she has in mind. It sounds like she is missing you and wants to fix it but don't know how to.
2007-05-19 01:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She still loves you. You need to be firm with her, but at the same time have a heart. Tell her how sorry you are that she's hurting right now, but her calls are bugging you and they need to stop. Explain to her that it will only make her feel worse if she continues to call you. Explain to her that you need her to stop, you're getting frustrated. If this doesn't help, get caller id and monitor your calls. Good luck.
2007-05-19 01:49:35 · answer #7 · answered by mizz_kitty_79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably starting to feel lonely, and is trying to have some sort of connection with you. It may be more to do with the separation, being alone, not having someone around than to do with you. My husband does the same thing, and I find myself doing the same thing to friends. I'll email or call my friends without anything to say, just to have someone to talk to.
2007-05-19 03:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by AnonymousGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you answer she'll keep asking!!! Maybe time to change your number to unlisted!! Some people keep hanging on for awhile and find any reason to talk.
2007-05-19 01:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by 24Special 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like someone is debating if they really want a divorce!
2007-05-19 01:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋