How can I make my boyfriend move out?

Question

My boyfriend is seperated from his wife and has lived with me for nearly 4 years. He has been promising to get divorced but ther is always a reason why its not a good time. I asked him to leave before Christmas, and he is still trying to find a place to rent. Can I do anything legally to give him notice? Any other advice would be helpful. I just want to get on with my life. Thanks

Its my house. He pays a couple of quarterly bills but its all in my name. I have asked him several times. Thanks for your replys.

Answer 1

Do what I did.I was married to a violent pi** head for some years.He was arrested several times(but not charged) with assault on me and criminal damage( our house,baby's pram,tvs etc).We were in a housing association at the time,and they refused to evict him 'cos he was on the tenancy agreement.In the end I convinced him to go and stay with his mum for a holiday (some 150 miles away)
While he was gone,his (ex) best mate helped me clear all his stuff into the garden and changed all the locks.
Best day of my life :o)
Good luck,hope all goes well.

Answer 2

He does not think that you are serious it is nearly June and you have said that you asked him before Christmas. Why would he? Do you want him to move or get the divorce? Ultamatiums do not work. If you are serious about him moving then yes you can take legal actions. Give him until the end of the week and then call the police if he doesn't. If you want him to get a divorce then focus on helping him find an attorney and proceeding. He may just be a bit lazy about this. You could help. If you toss his stuff to prove a point then be prepared to have him go for good. Figure out what you really want and implement the plan for getting there. Good Luck honey. I'm not trying to be mean just keepin it real.

Answer 3

Sorry honey. But he used you, just as he used his wife. He does not want to be committed to anyone. "it will never be a good time" as far as he is concerned. He just wants a woman around for his physical, needs. This way he has a housekeeper too. He is living the life of luxury without any commitment. He want to have his cake and eat it too. WAKE UP!!!!! You have to be more assertive. He is not looking for a place to rent. He is only going through the motions.

The house is on your name. You are responsible, and have your head screwed on straight. So get any legal advise you may need. And then proceed with the advice you get.

Once he is out, change the locks, get an unlisted phone number, and if necessary get a restraining order from the court so that he cannot come near, on or in your premises.

Answer 4

If his name is not on the lease and he threatens you in anyway you can call the police and have him thrown out. You may have to press charges. You may also have to go the court house and get him evicted. While you are there put a claim into small claims Court and an action to keep him away from you. Like an order of protection. This guy can be dangerous if backed into a corner. No reasonable man is going to stay with a woman that does not want him and not pay anything. March down to the court house and mean business. Best of luck..

Answer 5

depending on where you live, it may cost you between $100-$150, but get the locks changed. When he's gone to work or wherever for the day, pack his stuff, get the locksmith out to change the locks and have everything outside waiting for him (except the new keys!). Include a note telling him that you have asked repeatedly for him to move out, he hasn't so you are just helping him. It's not up to you where he's going after he discovers all his stuff is outside. You're not his mom...so dont feel guilty. Some guys have a hard time owning up to responsibility...that is why you need to do this! BE STRONG! trust me...Ive done this and it's the BEST thing I ever did! YOU GO GIRL!

Answer 6

look that man shouldn't lay a hand on you! Did he leave you back and blue? If he does this crap, you need to report him to someone at school! Let him know u aren't going to take this abuse and will report it if he ever lays a finger on you again. Keep a private diary and record any such events. Now mama getting new man can be tense for anyone. I'm sorry u feel your mama is choosing him over you. As u r growing up in the world, u deserve to be shown your value. We live in a time, what East Indians call "Kali Yuga" which means lots of ignorance and suffering...harder to connect with our own inner true Greatness...the reflection of what created us I feel for u b/c u r growing up & don't need this crap! U need good examples & harmonious home. Are there any good guidance counselors at school? Once in awhile a good one can really help put things in perspective. How old r u? U getting close to college? Then u can eventually get a little job & rent a place with others and just stay there. Its hard 4 single moms with kids these days...that's y she is kissing his a@@. Hope some of these tips help! Keep yourself busy, express your frustration in your art, music or poetry, etc!!!! Open up to good friends! Connect w/ something greater through meditation! Enjoy life now it can suck later if u don't get things worked out now.

Answer 7

OK...it's your home...he sad that he'd look for somewhere else, but it seems that he hasn't, so what you need to do (if you REALLY want him to leave) IS wait till he goes out....put all his stuff in a bag, have the locks changed and call him to come and pick his stuff up...he cannot force you to let him back in, although he may be pissed off because of what's going on...but if you want him to go, then just dump his stuff outside and don't let him in...if he starts any trouble, then call the cops....simple as...no you don't need to do anything legally to give him notice...you gave him notice at Christmas, and he's still there, it's YOUR home, he may have helped with the bills but his name is not on the papers to your home, just tell him that you don't want him there, that's it....

Answer 8

You do know that if he doesn't pay you rent or help you with bills you can "evict him" from your home. He then will have 15-30 days to pack his stuff and get out. It sounds harsh, but it's legal and effective. If he hasn't done so you have the right to call the cops and have them escorted from your house. Some people don't take others seriously and you yourself have to stick by your decision. What you say goes and if he isn't respecting you or your home than he needs to leave, pronto!

Answer 9

If the lease/month to month rental agreement is in your name you will have to evict him. Serve him with a ten day notice to quit the premises. You could ask your property management company to send you a letter stating the agreement was for one person etc. You could pack all his things and put them in a storage facility and give him the key. You could pack all his things and put them on the porch and change the locks. You could toss all his stuff into the front yard and get the lighter fluid and the wieners and kill two birds with one stone. Get the phone book out and check for vacancies at motels with kitchenettes or a frig and microwave.. You could always move.

Answer 10

Its your house so you have no responsibility to him legally BUT what does your heart tell you?Look after places for him in the papers just for a starters and that should give him a wink.You want to be on your own in the house and go forward with your life .Perhaps this is a poorly answer but that is how i would proceed.
Good luck

Damien